I like toughness because it acknowledges an uncomfortable, complicated truth—that being disabled is hard—but rejects pity as an acceptable response. Instead, it gives my body credit for outlasting, adapting, and thriving in ways able-bodied people can’t imagine.
The safest sex is no sex, but a lot of times that’s unreasonable. With kink,I still get to explore sex and submission, but I’m not putting my body at risk in the same way.
My self love is my favorite thing about myself right now. Seeing my sometimes dry, sometimes crusty-eyed face first thing in the morning and automatically thinking, ‘damn, you’re beautiful’ is a joy I never thought I would experience.