“‘There are a lot of ideas about sexual compatibility in the field of sex therapy, lots of ways to qualify different styles of lovers based on their needs, communication style, and that sort of thing,’ Dr. Timaree Schmit, a sexologist and doctor of Human Sexuality, told Nerve. When I pushed her on a hard and fast definition of erotic compatibility, she explains, ‘I think ultimately what is most important is that lovers as individuals really, legitimately know what they want — not just sexual acts or frequency or type of intimacy, but also what the underlying emotional need is that’s being met through these things.” Part of that comes with communication, as she notes, “someone may say they want sex six times a week and their partner only wants it once a week and that’s the way the problem is identified. But what is it that they both really want? Just to get off? Or perhaps a sense of validation — that they are attractive to their partner? Maybe it’s a wish for intimacy.’”
“An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one, and later two or more, finger(s) inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. We’re talking about that fleshy ‘mound’ over her pubic bone. Your finger should have freedom to move in and out freely while the palm of your hand can add pressure against her vulva and clitoris. Once you get better, you can start moving your palm to add more stimulation.”
Ever have one of those times when you’re in bed with your special someone and you find yourself at a loss for words? Well, as everyone knows, nothing makes for better pillow talk than dinosaur facts. Here you go, and you’re welcome.
It’s our 39th Autostraddle Anonymous Sex Toy Review! Over the last few years, sex toy companies and stores have propositioned us, wondering if we’d like to review their toys in exchange for, you know, their toys.
This week, one of our anonymous reviewers tried out theDorado glass dildo, available at Good Vibes.
“Madison Young, sexpert, feminist, pornographer, and author of ‘Daddy: A Memoir’ notes that that there’s little point in subscribing to ‘societal expectations of how someone else thinks I should be having sex.’ Which is a good point. Certainly the realm of the erotic would be far more limited and boring if we all adhered to a prescribed set of sexual guidelines.
In the cups, hanging between them, or tucked into a side or shoulder strap, these sex toys and safer sex items can all fit into your bra* and are perfect for sex on the go or any time you just don’t feel like bringing a bag.
“So what’s so wrong about ‘pussy’ — arguably one of the most fun, provocative, sensuous words to describe a woman’s down-there? The New York Observer approached the Times’ standards editor Phil Corbett about the controversial ‘p’ word the Paper of Record has been historically reluctant to reproduce. ‘We are making case-by-case judgments, based on newsworthiness, context and other factors,’ Corbett told the Observer. One of those judgments included deciding to dub the noise punk band Perfect Pussy comically ‘that band with the unprintable name.’”
“I’m a broke-ass college student looking to explore the magical world of sex toys, but 1. I’m not putting anything made of a shady material in my body, and 2. I want to explore everything all the time forever. This gets expensive really fast, as I’m sure you know. I was just wondering if you knew of any good sources to buy used sex toys from. I know that’s kind of weird but I buy used everything else and as long as it can be boiled I think that I would be okay with using a used sex toy. Any suggestions?”
It’s our 38th Autostraddle Anonymous Sex Toy Review! Over the last few years, sex toy companies and stores have propositioned us, wondering if we’d like to review their toys in exchange for, you know, their toys. We’ve decided to start saying yes to the dress.
This week, I tried out Vixen Creation’s Outlawdildo. I paid actual money for it, so follow your…
+ The most successful romantic relationships involve staying positive, communicating well, maintaining external friendships, trying new things, having the amount of sex you both want and not being jerks:
“‘The real issue here, I think, is that couples are not finding enough time for sex,’ said Dr. Smith. ‘I don’t think you can…
Spanking, slapping, flogging, paddling and hitting can all feel great, done correctly.
If you’re playing with a new person or toy, experiment with a few different strokes with different intensities to see what you both like. (You should also try out new toys on a pillow to get…
Restraining people is fun! Here are five ways to do it.
Always start by discussing what you both like, what you both don’t like, physical or mental health considerations, safe words (or other ways to stop the scene) and what anyone might require for aftercare. Safety is…
+ People don’t really use the word “vagina” in sexting because everyone’s been taught it isn’t a sexy word, so everyone use “vagina” in sexting from now on.
“It’s inspiring that the general consensus and objective of the festival is to challenge the mainstream: many of the films on the line-up are either made by or feature gay, lesbian and bi people, queer/non-binary/trans* people,…
