my boob got this splotchy red bruise out of NOWHERE. should i be worried?
yes, i think that means you have been bitten by a magical unicorn and will get super powers, but i don’t know which super powers yet, ‘cause i’m not a doctor
i need someone to talk to because i’m very down. i have a few therapist friends, but I want to know, is that rude? to ask them to do something for free that they get paid to do all day? i just can’t figure out how to ask for help.
when your friends are down, do they talk to you about it?
talk to one of your friends who also talks to you when she’s down
then it’s called ‘friendship,’ see!
I’m 2 weeks into a relationship with a girl I really like, but she is getting very serious (telling me she loves me) very fast. I don’t know what to do. I have abandonment issues and don’t want to get attached to this person I’ve only known a month.
girl you need to put the brakes on that right this very moment
What do I respond with when I mockingly get called a dyke by a teenage boy? It caught me off guard and made me sad, then mad later.
a friend was telling me a story today about a dude biking by her and her girlfriend and calling out “gayyyyy” and she reports that without really thinking about it she just called back “good eye!”
riiiese, my gf is becoming really needy. she either wants me with her or on the phone or on bbm, i’m trying to explain how i can’t always do that but she’s starting to think i dont love her :(
i think people push you as far as you let them
so you should deal with this now
before it gets to be too much
does she think that’s how people show love to each other? for real?
by constantly talking to each other all the time?
no! and she knows that. she just feels insecure for some reason.
ask her what it is about you being separate from her that makes her panic
what does she think you’re doing when you’re not talking to her?
what does she imagine herself doing when you can’t talk to her?
my junior year of boarding school, my best friend and i we were so obsessed with each other
that we designed our schedules second semester to be in as many classes together as possible or else in the same rotunda so we could see each other between classes. he was a boy, so we didn’t stay in the same dorm, but every other waking minute we spent together. by the time we got to dinner – our third meal together of the day – we had nothing left to say to each other! we had nothing to report!
relationships aren’t about two heads meshing into one body. that’s unhealthy and ultimately unsustainable. the best thing you can bring to the table is your strength and independence, your capability to be apart, and your decision to be together. you can sit there at the table with your little heads full of ideas and feelings. then see what happens when you touch.
I contributed to the campaign a few weeks ago, but I’ve since decided to move into a new place on 9/1. I got the $25 package. When would you mail those, and who would I send a new address to?
things will be mailed at the end of the campaign, and we’ll check everybody’s address before mailing anything, i believe. this is alex’s area but she’s in longisland for her brother’s wedding and this is the most educated answer i feel qualified to provide. don’t worry, nothing will be mailed until after the campaign ends. wheeeeeee
Can I still be a penpal?! I didn’t know about it so I didn’t sign up but i swear i am a great penpal!
honestly right now i think i’ve got to put a cap on it. everybody’s already matched up with people of the age/language/other stuff that they wanted and we’re just sending out emails to let people know who they’re been partnered with. but there will be another chance! there will! it’ll probably be in a few months after we’re figured out a way to speed up the time between sending in your info and getting an actual pal.
Get Baked: Zucchini Edition. Please? I have about six hundred bajillion zucchinis.
do you want to share some
no estoy familiarizada con el concepto de amigo por correspondencia (pen pal), pero parece sumamente interesante…dicho esto, me gustaría saber si los intercambios pueden darse en español y si pueden sumarse personas heterosexuales?
claro que sí! ya he emparejado todos los pen pals esta vez, pero cuando lo hacemos la próxima vez, puedes registrar. esta vez, teníamos varias personas que querían un pen pal hispanohablante y también habían pocos heterosexuales.
Are you still planning on doing a second round of penpals for people who didn’t have addresses the first time?
Once I figure out a way that doesn’t involve a two year long turn-around time, absolutely. I keep trying to come up with fancy plans involving spreadsheets and mail merges, but I just can’t make it work yet. If you’ve got any ideas, I’m all ears/eyes.
i haven’t gotten a penpal yet :( i got flower seeds to send and pretty paper and a mix and everything!
Don’t worry! You’re going to be able to use them soon, I promise! Julia and I (but mostly Julia. You guys, she’s amazing) have be sending out emails every day because we’re so excited for you all to have buddies. I’m so so so sorry it’s taken 8x longer than I expected, but I was only expecting there to be ~100 people who’d want to play pen pals with me and I got overwhelmed in the best way possible by how many of you wanted in.