yes i think exes can be psychic. it’s temporary though, eventually it wears off. there’s all KINDS of cosmic shit going on, in general, if you pay attention.
you know what
i think you might like each other
yes
i usually say y'all or ‘you all’
i am so glad you used scissors instead of machetes or razorblades
oh thank you. you should thank laneia though, i honestly had not a thing to do with it! i couldn’t look at the jezebel comments because i was already so upset that i didn’t think i could take it. sometimes i take it super-duper personally, and i hate that, because we can’t just keep publishing shit i agree with forever. sometimes somebody needs to take a risk. right? i mean… or maybe i’m just telling myself that so that it doesn’t feel like emotional torture. anyhow, yeah, i didn’t agree with her viewpoint either, but i wasn’t stressed about it. i think things are okay where nobody else is bothered or harmed. like in general.
oh wow, they already do local productions? that’s crazy! yeah haviland saw it when it was off-off-broadway b/c that’s when hav and i first became friends and she had already been really good friends with lea, and we’d both recently joined myspace (YUP) and i remember haviland wrote a “myspace blog post” about how good spring awakening was and that we all had to see it if we could. then it became a thing, and then a bigger thing, and haviland kept trying to tell me that ‘we’ve all got our junk’ and then one day lainy emailed me while i was at work and said she had front row seats and did i want to go with her and i said yes, and then i did! she was v.excited, lainy, for a few reasons, about the show. i really liked it, so i took my mom to see it when she was in town. anyhow, yaeah!
think of your naked body as someone’s reward. you want to reward people for being smart/hilarious/adorable/talented/interesting/kind/good, not for being ‘attractive douchebags.’ anyone can be an attractive douchebag. don’t reward mediocrity.
yes! thank you! no for real, we’re genuinely excited about this – we’ve been working on this campaign for months to make it both effective for them and non-obtrusive/pleasant/on-brand for you, and it’s just really cool that they wanna invest in lesbians and in autostraddle (despite all the controversial shit we do, which they have no problem with). it’s basically our dream come true w/r/t an advertiser. so yeah! support us/them!
you can’t
stop trying
trying is probably really frustrating
because it’s impossible
and you don’t want to be frustrated
AND drowning,
that’s a lot of negativity.
you are dealing with fractures
in your family and friends
ruptured worlds you trusted
focus on your finals
get that done.
you can do that.
school is a thing you can do.
hold your breath –
it’s ok, you don’t have to hold it forever –
and get through it.
then at the end of the week if your pain
has softened, that’s good
and if it is the same, then deal with it, let it out
in a journal or to a friend
to friends, to a therapist,
to a dog
and then you go on
day by day
like the rest of us
until that pain becomes a speck in your world.
something like that,
i think.
thank you for asking! you know what i honestly think? i think you should do what you wanna do if it doesn’t bother anyone. i’ve made out in a lot of bathrooms, A LOT – and i mean the single-person kind, not like where there are stalls or something, i’ve never done that (it’s so obvious!) – but if somebody knocks or there’s a line, you get the fuck out of there! generally as a person i don’t like strangers to look at me or pay attention to me, so usually i try to be as invisible as possible, so obviously i’m already drunk in this case, but whatever, like i just would peace out i guess? i’d be so scared of people getting mad at me when i walked out of the bathroom or giving me angry eyes. also, new york is totally fucked so, prepare yourself, it’s a thrill
either your response wasn’t what they’d expected/hoped for, or they’ve gone on a date or two with another girl and don’t know yet if they should cut off communications with potential dates or keep y'all on standby, so they’re just not doing anything.
or they contracted pinkeye and aren’t in the mood to flirt.
