I know the only way I can possibly leave my apartment tonight/be social is to drink copious amounts of liquor, but I don’t think I want to be that girl. Thoughts?
well, you’re either gonna be that girl or you’ll be the girl who is in her apartment instead of going out. so decide if you want to go out or not, and if you do, then you do what you do. don’t have more than one drink before you get there, and then just play it as it lays. or stay at home and read sady doyle’s article on autostraddle three times.
i’m feeling sad and lonely and am also a little high. what should i do? or watch or read… or eat.
i like to do all three at once
did wbc hackers kill autostraddle?
actually we now know that hackers DID kill autostraddle, we had to go back to a dedicated server that could handle the “brute force attack” against us. crazy right? we can’t make it stop, we can only beef up security. it was probably somebody’s ex-girlfriend
What’s your favorite kind of blanket / quilt / cozy enveloping item?
giant down comforter and/or jersey sheets and/or girl
how do you decide which questions to post to tumblr and which to just answer on your formspring page?
tumblr are generally answers that might be relevant to everyone, formspring are answers that might be only relevant to the person who asked it or a few others. but sometimes it’s just totally random. also sometimes formspring is b/c i am insecure about my answer not being good
Are Brandy and Julie really cool in real life? or are they super bitchy and wouldn’t like me?
they are even cooler in real life, for real
So I have decided to get my life together and start eating healthy but I am terrified because I know this means I’m going to gain weight. I love my body now, but I know it’s killing me. What do I do?
1. THERAPY with an ED specialist. You need a therapist to work through this with you. I’d say a support group, but I hear mixed reviews w/r/t enabling vs. support that happens there.
2. Read Carolyn Knapp’s “Appetites” – she puts EDs in a broader sociological concept that can be comforting and feel more manageable because you’ll start to feel like an ED is letting The Man win.
3. make a list of all the ways your life will improve when you start eating healthy, such as “can comfortably have dinner with friends without arousing suspicion/concern or lying or having anxiety” or “have more energy” or “can exercise without heart failure” or “can be a part of the world instead of walking around with this secret wall in front of me.” “can have a healthy relationship” “will enjoy holidays without stressing about what i’m eating” “CHEESE” the first time you feel those things, check them off.
4. plan on gaining weight. figure out the maximum amount of weight you expect to gain and prepare for it. if you go shopping, by clothes for that weight. you need to think of it as a thing like puberty or aging – it is just an inevitable adjustment that your body is going to make and you have no control over it. i know that’s petrifying, but somehow picking a number and embracing it is a way to feel some control, even if the thing you are controlling is a thing you don’t necessarily think you want right now. say things like “i should get that bridesmaid’s dress in a 10, not a 4” in a calm voice, like saying you should get a warmer coat when it’s gonna be 32 degrees, not 40.
5. stop reading women’s magazines or fashion magazines. watch less tv. instead watch documentaries that remind you how privileged you are to have a body that works and surround yourself with imagery of healthy people of all sizes, not airbrushed people or models who only eat celery and apple cider vinegar.
6. get a friend or two to help you out who you can be honest with. make sure they know what words or ideas trigger you and ask them to help.
7. you’re lucky, you’re alive, YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL, celebrate yourself!
8. yoga
9. therapy
10. therapy
11. therapy
I am going to see Lady Gaga on Tuesday and want to look FABULOUS. what should i wear???
you guys, i love you, but you cannot ask me what to wear to things like this. here is a list of places or events where my fashion advice could be useful:
+ suburban children’s birthday parties
+ trader joe’s
+ hippie commune
+ fish fry
+ yard sale
+ my living room (also: riese’s living room)
+ farmers’ market