I don’t feel right ascribing to culturally normative ideals for my own gender, and once I was allowed to set fire to the rain that poured them down on me, I was finally able to live as myself.
Everything I have written since then has been informed by the scorn those men hurled at me. Storytellers obtuse enough to feed us poison and cruel enough to berate us when we protest. Straight men telling silly gay women who is in charge of our stories and that we should be quiet and respect what they decide we deserve. It is in my mind, always, the things those men said to me. And it took me a long, long, long time before I was willing to open myself up to another story. I didn’t want to do it, actually. I fought against it with my whole self, even though stories are the thing that make us human. If you re-read my first Pretty Little Liars recaps, you’ll see it. The smugness, the sarcasm, the cheap and lazy snark I wove around everything I wrote, like armor. Protecting me, but protecting you too, because I led us to the place where we were ambushed.
Heather Hogan via Pretty Little Liars Episode 514 Recap: The Long Goodbye
False rape statistics, and conversations about the prevalence of false rape allegations, are a modern Salem Witch Trial against the women of this country who face rape culture head-on every day. And I won’t fucking stand for it.
The bottom line is we examined the situation we found ourselves in and said, “this shit has got to change.”
Amid the incredibly disheartening barrage of news updates about white cops killing and hurting black people, there has been a notably lopsided division of attention and passion from both the media and the activists on the ground. Black men and boys are seen as symbols for an entire race of people who deal with police violence. And women and girls, gunned down, raped, and abused by cops, disappear in virtual silence.
When I was first motivated to get sober, I had nowhere else to turn except AA. But eventually, I got exhausted of being told that I was resentful, resistant, miserable, and angry every time I challenged AA’s teachings.
Also.Also.Also: I Swear This Isn’t Clickbait and Other Stories We Missed
Also.Also.Also: I Swear This Isn’t Clickbait and Other Stories We Missed
Lord have mercy you will never get through all of this. Maybe next week I’ll do two smaller AAAs and everyone will wake up happy. Here are some of the things we missed while Time magazine was being the absolute fucking worst!
look what new Intern Raquel found for you!
Gay.+ One of my favorite humans, Arabelle Sicardi, wrote The Best Time I Got Sent to ‘Pray Away the Gay’ Bible Yoga Campand…
Rebel Girls: 5 Bad Theories on Gender and Sex From Way Back When That Still Impact us Today
Rebel Girls: 5 Bad Theories on Gender and Sex From Way Back When That Still Impact us Today
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Science isn’t always right. As queers, I think we can agree that backwards scientific and medical concepts about homosexuality, heterosexuality, transgender identities, and everything else under our umbrella have complicated our lives, and if you make it through a women’s history class without walking away with a little bit of skepticism about the “hard sciences” and what…
Pornotopia Fights the Good Fight for Diversity and Sex Positivity in Porn
Pornotopia Fights the Good Fight for Diversity and Sex Positivity in Porn
Very few women get the opportunity to watch pornography in public, with strangers, in a setting that feels safe, but Albuquerque, New Mexico’s Pornotopia is changing that. The seven-year-old erotic film festival, taking place November 13-16 at the Guild Cinema, was founded by Matie Fricker, who also happens to own Self Serve, one of the growing number of sex shops that are woman-owned,…
Why The Anti-Street Harassment Movement Needs to Involve More Women of Color
Why The Anti-Street Harassment Movement Needs to Involve More Women of Color
The last time we convened here to discuss the prickly issue of race and street harassment, it was after Minnesota blogger Lindsey took to the web to publicly humiliate her street harassers who happened to be primarily men of color. This time, white New Yorker Shoshana B. Roberts teamed up with video editor Rob Blissand anti-street harassment organization Hollaback! to make a video depicting a…
Also.Also.Also: A ‘Bend It Like Beckham’ Musical and Other Stories We Missed
Also.Also.Also: A ‘Bend It Like Beckham’ Musical and Other Stories We Missed
Hey my living room is covered in fairy lights and artificial cranberry branches! I’m not saying I’ve decorated for the holidays, but I’ve definitely decorated for something. Here are 78k things we missed while I was dreaming of chili fries and talking myself out of hanging the Christmas wreath on the front door.
