The Lesbian Sex Survey
— open to all female-identified folks who have sex with other
female-identified folks — garnered 8,566 complete responses (and another
7,000 incompletes), of which 89% came from people between the ages of
18 and 36. In addition to asking about the sex you have with other
humans, we had quite a few questions about the sex you have with
yourself. Let’s get into it.
When someone talks about ‘porn’ they probably have a specific vision in mind, and that vision may not match someone else’s. Here is a fact: you cannot possibly imagine all porn. Whatever you envisage when you think of the word, it is not representative. No porn is representative of ‘all porn,’ not even the sort of porn we might call ‘mainstream.’ Porn is bigger, and has more potential, than any of that.
Is the future of porn feminist? What is porn, anyway. Find out.
WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.
Y'all offered up some timeless sex advice when you took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey. Here’s some of our favorite bits of wisdom.
“I still get excited when you come in the door every night. It’s not new; it’s better.”
Heather’s Fosters 216 recap is full of emotional orgasms and feelings.
I was her first. In fact, before me, no one — girl or otherwise — had fucked Marta. No one had plied their lips to her clit, no one had fingered her, no one had made her come. My index and forefinger broke her hymen. We spent long, luxurious hours in bed, stealing off when we could to cheesy hotels — we met as counselors at a Catholic girls’ camp run by nuns. When we didn’t have time away, we would find each other in bathrooms and closets; Marta would rub my clit until I came, mouth upon her shoulder. I’d leave spit trails on her polo shirt.
If you are satisfied with the physical sensations you have during sex, then you are satisfied —regardless of whether you have fireworks hitting you over the head, rolling hills of pleasure, or no orgasm at all. You don’t need to experience satisfaction in anyone’s definition but your own. That said, I’ve heard of, seen, and felt those rolling kinds of orgasm, and in my opinion, they’re super-nifty — both to have and to cause in another person’s body.
I want you to lead me through vanilla sex ramping up through some kind of kinkiness. Extreme kinkiness.
DeAnne Smith interviewed NSFW Editor Carolyn about lesbian sex. It was as great as you imagine.
I know you don’t wanna be that person who won’t fulfill a request for their very generous and open lover — but I bet your girlfriend doesn’t wanna be that person whose sexual requests send their girlfriend into a horrifying traumatic spiral, either.
It’s somehow more comfortable for society to label fat people disgusting than to acknowledge our desirability. The propaganda is so pervasive that fat people must fight not to believe it of ourselves. We look at our bodies in bits and pieces because we are taught that the whole is too much. We feel a lover’s hands on our fat thighs and we have to trust that the hand wouldn’t be there if its owner didn’t want us.
We eat the messages that call us repulsive and we let stomach acid destroy the words and we march forward. We flirt with another fat girl at the coffee shop. We welcome a skinny boy to lose himself between our legs. We learn to stand naked in front of full length mirrors and see our many inches as a whole.
We learn to fall in love with ourselves.
Now that you’ve cleaned and culled your sex toys, it’s time to take a few hours by yourself or with an activity partner and use every. Single. One. You know that glass dildo you love but always forget about, or the under-the-bed restraints that are gathering dust, or your backup vibrator? Use them. Remember that shirt at the bottom of your drawer you found one day and wear all the time now? That’s a great shirt. You probably have a sex toy like that.
Did some naked housework today like that episode of Friends when Rachel was trying to get comfortable with her own body. “Check me out. I’m in my kitchen … naked. I’m picking up an orange; I’m naked! Lighting the candles, naked, and carefully!” Luckily, unlike Friends, Ross didn’t come over and ruin it.
Spend at least three hours this week moving around whatever space you can — your own house, or your room with the door closed — totally and completely naked. Lock the door and close the windows and put electrical tape over your webcam if you need to but get into your space and take your clothes off. Complete small routine tasks. Check your email. Check you out in that mirror over there, damn you look good.
Tonight I cleaned my room while listening to a Why Are People Into That. Now my room is sooooo clean and I am thinking about the thing that Tina Horn was talking about with her guest that was sooo hot. Listening to YAPIT got me really hot and now I have renewed my CrashPad subscription.