Here’s some more outfit ideas for navigating the heteronormative patriarchy.
My advice for anyone who wants to start their own business is the same as what I say to friends who want to start cutting their own hair: Confidence is key. If you believe you can do it, you can. And if you mess up the back a little, who cares? It’s behind you.
I’m the person who says ‘don’t swipe left’ when I let people look at my phone because it’s usually full of nudes I haven’t hidden yet. The selfie movement got me to love myself so much that I started wanting to see myself naked more often. So I do my makeup, put on sexy lingerie and photograph myself while I slowly take it off.
Every two people who come together to figure out what sex between them will look like encounter a unique alchemy. We bring all of our experiences into that moment, the euphoric ones and the traumatic ones. We bring all of our insecurities, all the TV shows we’ve watched and books we’ve read and advertisements we’ve seen, all the advice our friends and family have given us. We bring our cultural programming and our religious upbringings. Sometimes we bring our sweetest hopes and deepest fears too.
The conference was intoxicating — the feeling of being understood as a human being in a career field that’s mainly homogeneous shouldn’t have ended there, but we knew we’d have to hold onto it on our own as we collectively traveled back to our offices, which aren’t quite as diverse… It felt like, for those few days in the increasingly volatile San Francisco, we were a huge family connected by this spirit of resilience and technical savvy.
