This week’s Friday Open Thread is all about gettin’ zen with your bad self. Get in here!
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My Dinah mission was not to party, but to go on an adventure. In three days I crossed four big items off my bucket list: camping under an eclipse, Dinah, Salvation Mountain, and the Salton Sea.
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They do not put flesh to flesh in the sense of the genital organ of one within the body of the other, since nature precludes this, but they do transform the use of the member in question into an unnatural one, in that they are reported to use certain instruments of diabolical operation to excite desire.
For Bessie Smith to be so boldly queer as a celebrity and especially a woman of color in the early 20th century was powerful. To celebrate her for everything she was now – every last drop of her boisterous, promiscuous, defiant person – could still change everything.
I learned that I liked cats a lot. And definitely intimacy. And being honest. And sharing close quarters and time with people.
When you’re dating one person, does every other person instantly become unattractive to you? Do you transition from being straight, gay or lesbian to being a Sandra-sexual, Matt-sexual, or Alanna-sexual? I didn’t think so. In my current relationship, I am having the best sex of my life, and I am still attracted to women. There are still women on the street who catch my eye. That doesn’t mean I’m in hiding from my true inner lesbian; it means I’m a living, breathing, queer human.
In our recent Autostraddle Grown-Ups Survey for readers over 29, we asked “who was the first lesbian or bisexual celebrity or public figure you remember being aware of?” These were your answers.
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Right now, this girl is making you feel like you have to defend your sexuality — I can tell because you asked “Why must I defend my sexuality?”. The key here is to remember that you don’t have anything to be defensive about; your sexuality is totally normal and fine. The only person who should be on the defensive is her, because her attitudes are ridiculous and poisonous. So with that established, that’s the dynamic to push for: don’t let the conversation center around your identity and choices, but hers. Put the spotlight on her behavior, and push her to be the one providing explanations. Next time she says something like that, here are some possibilities to respond with:
“Wow, so you’re just super uncomfortable with bisexual people, huh?”
“So you just really can’t get over who I’ve slept with? Like, you’re still thinking about it?”
“You sure talk about this a lot. It’s like a really big deal to you, isn’t it?”
“Do you ever worry about how you sound when you just go on and on about bisexuality like this?”
“Why do you think you can’t let go of this stuff for even just one evening while we all hang out? What’s going on there?”
“Do you do this to other bisexual people, or just me?”
“Do you ever feel like you should have warned me about how you feel about bisexual girls before we dated?”
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Probably there’s much more you could be feeling, like days and days more. Our post-breakup hearts are large, they contain multitudes. But the overall point, I guess, is this: you will notice that my commentary on these situations trends towards the cautionary. That isn’t because I don’t believe that anyone should ever get back with an ex ever, but because I know that breakups are hard and painful, and most of the time if we go through them it’s because on some level we know it’s for the best.