The feasibility of being Xena Warrior Princess when we grow up
‘The Story of No’ - Brittani for Autostraddle
I remember everything: what normal felt like all through college in my relationship with her — an attractive and charismatic woman who was also a compulsive liar and an abusive lover. Of course it didn’t start out that way. Insane realities rarely do.
Dannielle: What have you learned from our friendship?
Kristin: I know a couple of things I have learned from our friendship. I have learned to be so much more aware of my tendency to not understand something if I don’t experience it the same way. I think that you and I experience things so differently, and I feel like I understand not only about you but about other people that the way I interpret the world is not the way everyone interprets the world, and that’s a very important thing to understand.
Dannielle: Yeah, I feel like mine would be similar but the difference would be communicating around those things. I think I used to have a tendency to say, “I’m upset and you’re upset and until you figure out why I’m upset I’m going to talk to you in a way that is upsetting.” Now I understand that we’re upset for two different reasons so we have to address those two different things in two different ways. So it’s learning to navigate communication around that.
Kristin: Yeah. We’ve been really good wives to each other, I think.
