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i have a little container on my nightstand that exists solely to hold my dozen or so chapsticks. full disclosure, lately i’ve also been feeling tinted lip balm
I DON’T KNOW WHAT THIS IS, IT SOUNDS NEAT THOUGH
we were talking about how newt gingrich is so like WHAT THE FUCK, the fact that he’s got any support at all, the fact that he’s even a contendor in this circus that has cycled through one bizarre contender after another. i think people are looking for a cult because everything is hard and you want someone to come in and be magical. when everything you see is sad, you have to make room for things you can’t see, like G-d, if you’re gonna keep your head up and eyes open. I think you start to want magic. like i think i voted for obama because i thought he was the closest thing to magic i’d ever seen vying for that position. but magic isn’t real! but then when i think about newt gingrich having actual support, i realize that like can you imagine his equivalent on our side? he’s making big promises, like abortion and health care are over on day one, he promises. can you imagine a parade of dem candidates who promised to legalize same-sex marriage on his or her first day in office? I mean, CAN YOU? because that’s abortion to the people on the other side. can you imagine if our guy was going FAR LEFT? We’d be obsessed with him/her! They’re willing to go far right but not one fucking human being will stand up and actually defend all the things that human being believes in, like that corporations aren’t people. That’s why I voted for Obama, and I’ll vote for him again because even if he isn’t magic, I still believe he could be magic, and I can’t say that about anyone else on the ballot.
i know i’m gonna get shit for saying this, but whatever, i’m saying it b/c without being honest we’ll never get to the bottom of anything, ever, and that’s part of what’s holding us back. It’s just that I don’t know if we lack those far-left dramatics because we’re too compassionate, too wimpy or – BEAR WITH ME HERE – if it’s because we have less idiots. because we’re smarter. I mean most Republicans are smart I’m sure, but I feel like we have less idiots on our side so maybe it’s more difficult to pull one over on a lot of us like they do to their voters. or maybe there are candidates that see things as complicated as they actually are, not the reductive blanket statements that bedrock a Republican presidential race.
is that the problem? the fatal flaw? or is that reductive or unfair? and if you think it is, are you saying that because you believe it, or because you think the question itself is unfair? That judging in and of itself is unfair? That could be our fatal flaw.
these are real questions, not answers, these are thoughts not facts, i’m not married to any of it. it’s just what i was thinking and i wonder what you think, too?
I think coming out of a five year relationship, I’d be skeptical about everything.
Thinking about sexuality, especially your own, can be super overwhelming. So my advice is: DON’T THINK ABOUT IT. Just do. Do what feels right to you.
Stand by your decision to live honestly, as scary as this will be.
Seriously, just don’t over-think this.
If it happens, don’t let one bad experience with a girl (and vice versa with a guy) deter you from that specific gender. They don’t represent anyone but themselves. Try to treat it on a person-by-person basis while you’re trying to discover who you are, you know?
Hope this helps at least a little bit :)
i don’t think fedoras are particularly gendered. unless “prohibition-era gangster” is a gender. do they make wool-lined fedoras? i just want you to be warm, you know?
1. nothing 2. politely and respectfully stop hanging out with her for at least 2-3 months and see how you feel
What if you kind of went for an asymmetrical Rihanna style short haircut? And then just occasionally wore cute headbands/clips if you feel like it’s not femme enough.
Sure! I get my eyebrows done. It doesn’t really hurt and it saves me a big pain in the ass of tweezing them myself. It’s in the catagory of “okay if you do, okay if you don’t.”
The sex drive of men is something we are all comfortable with in this country. It’s funny and hormonal and slapstick (American Pie), it’s potentially uncontrollable, maniacal/homicidal (American Psycho), it is adulterous and is insatiable (American Beauty), it is fun and social (American Graffiti) and it is entrepreneurial (American Gigolo). But women? No. NC-17. XXXX. Stop it with the moaning.
riese (via fuckyeahautostraddle)
wow i forgot about this essay
