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Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna

I came out to a colleague, and he was all cool. But then later he asked whether I had “a special friend”, and I got offended because he didn’t say partner, gf or wife (like it’s a diff category of relationship to his). Am I over-reacting?

yeah i think so
he’s probably just teasing, i would assume
making fun of how that’s what people say
i do that sometimes too, it’s tongue-in-cheek

but if he’s being serious, then he’s just ignorant basically
so tell him that you do/don’t have a girlfriend
and say “she’s my girlfriend – not my ‘special friend’”
school this man

it reminded me of one of my favorite parts of Six Feet Under, when Ruth is talking to her newly-out son, David:

Ruth Fisher: David, are you bringing a special friend to dinner?
David Fisher: Why are my friends always special?
Ruth Fisher: Okay, then. If you’re having sex with anyone, is he coming to dinner?

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Do you think it’s okay for a white man in a heterosexual relationship to claim a queer identity just because he is a performance artist claiming to perform “queer dance”? I just heard someone do that at an art show and got kind of squicked out.

is he queer?
i think that’s the question
it’s not okay to claim a queer identity just because he is a performance artist claiming to perform “queer dance.”
it’s okay to claim a queer identity if he is queer – like if he’s bisexual, or poly, or whatever. just because he’s dating a girl doesn’t mean he’s 100% straight.

but you know, really men should never be allowed to do anything ever, imho

ETA: I said “poly” because that could mean that although she thinks he’s a boy with a girlfriend, he could also be a boy with a girlfriend and a boyfriend, or other male lovers, not because I think poly = queer. It was just another way of looking at why her perspective on his sexuality might be skewed if she assumes that his girlfriend is the only person he sleeps with.

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I’ve been in love with her for 3 years now. WHEN WILL IT STOP I NEED TO GET OVER HER

if i say “find a hobby,” you have to understand that i’m not being flip. seriously, just find something that you like to do that is productive. when you spend time doing things that you like, you feel better about yourself and you meet people who you share interests with. who knows, maybe you’ll find someone else to love for three years (or more) while you’re at it. i would suggest:
+learning a new language
+volunteering
+biking or walking or running (if you’re a masochist)
+cooking
+rock climbing (climbers are the nicest people!)
+brewing beer
+storytelling: http://themoth.org/
+dominoes

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