My identity is a constantly shifting paradox. It is an identity fluctuating between reverse sides of an endless spectrum, in moments an infinite blackness, in the next blinding white, and occasionally, when I become exhausted by my relentless uncertainty, I settle in murky shades of grey. The...
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is ‘hatmaker’ your real surname? what an excellent name
thanks! it’s my mother’s maiden name. i’m in the process of changing it :)
Is it possible to find skinny jeans that fit/don’t look ridiculous when you have hips? If so, where?
I think all skinny jeans look great with hips because the narrow leg shows off how curvy you are. Try a high waisted skinny jean to avoid the dreaded muffin top.
I really want a proper top hat! Any ideas on where to get one that’s not $100+? Also, full height or the cute half height??
I like a 5.5 inch top hat. As for price that is difficult. Top hats are generally considered the most formal western hat and therefore, much like a tux or gown, should be well made (and also probably silk or polished fur felt) to avoid looking tacky. Try some vintage stores or ebay but make sure the hat was made for formal engagements– not for Halloween!
I’m going to prom with this girl who is wearing a dress and I wanted to wear a button up and tie. How can I femme up my outfit a little?
What about women’s black pants (maybe super high waisted wide leg), a black button up and a lavender or pink tie. Or a cute sort of girly bow tie! Or heels if you feel up to it.
How do I tell I girl I just want to be friends? It’s hard because we’ve hooked up a couple of times.
maybe just email her and say you don’t want things to be awkward, but you wanna be friends with her for a really long time and don’t want anything to get fucked up like they inevitably do, that it’s getting to a point where you feel like it could be complicated. i think. something like that. i feel like i’ve sent that email and also received that email a few times and it was functional on both ends.
I think that it’s rarely appropriate to tell someone (especially someone that you don’t know and don’t have an intimate knowledge of their situation) to come out to their parents – especially if that person is still financially dependent on them.
This is a very interesting interpretation/response to my answer to someone asking me ‘HOW’ they should come out to their parent.
How the hell do I come out to my (slightly-homophobic-but-he-doesn’t-realize-it) dad? If possible, I’d like to keep the fallout to a minimum…
Hey listen, we’re queermos/gaymos/etc – this shit isn’t going to be easy right now and there’s no getting around that. Unfortunately.
I say this: go balls out and don’t worry about a possibly inevitable fall out because I think this shit always turns around if you remain 100% true to yourself. Most of my friends had issues or fall outs or years of turmoil before their parent or family member came around. But that’s the point here – if they love you, they always come around.
Also sidenote: I think that most people who are homophobic don’t actually realize it. Which is annoying.