I have to go to a funeral in 100+ degree weather and I don’t want to wear a dress. What can I wear without melting? Are dark jeans maybe okay?
Lightweight button-up, light weight slacks, optional tie, oxford shoes.
You can’t wear dark jeans unless the wedding is really really casual.
I do most of my drinking alone, which makes it not feel like drinking at all. It’s just a thing I do on the way to doing something else. It’s like taking the bus, a sort of invisible thing in-between two other places, and it isn’t very interesting so it’s not really worth talking about. Because if a tree falls in some shithole bar, and no one is around to notice, it’s not much of an anecdote, now is it? It’s a potent facilitator, that feeling of being shimmery and translucent all the time, of not having witnesses. It’s easy to think whatever you want. It’s even easier to let those blind spots blot life out, seep outward like a drop of ink on a cocktail napkin.
Suggestions for an academic department ball for a qenderqueer boi with big boobs and an hourglass figure? Going for masculine, but not too stuffy and traditional. De-emphasizing the boobs is a plus. Psudo-black tie. Thanks!
I’ve been hearing good things about the Men’s slim-fit suits at Banana Republic.
Does it make you sad that people only/mostly ask you stuff about fashion? Or are you relieved that you don’t have to deal with all the awk personal questions?
Sometimes it’s a bummer, yes, why doesn’t anyone care about me?!?! But then I remember that this formspring account name is Autofashion and then everything makes sense.
It makes me more sad that I get a lot of questions I don’t know how to answer. Like about hair and skin care.
My gf and I, 1 yr anniversary is coming up. shes my cute little nerd, what can I get her that she like I already got her a flash drive
http://www.autostraddle.com/the-nerdiest-holiday-gift-guide-121256/
http://www.autostraddle.com/tech-gadget-gaming-design-holiday-gift-guide-2009-21760/
http://www.autostraddle.com/autostraddles-ultimate-holiday-gift-guide-2011-what-your-girlfriend-or-otherwise-inclined-pal-wants-2011/
http://www.autostraddle.com/autostraddle-wish-list-gift-guide-monkey-show-68127/
http://www.autostraddle.com/lesbian-holiday-shopping-25001/
Oh how lovely are the letters to the baby queers? I keep refreshing that post. I don’t even really want to win but I was compelled to write to myself and I’ve realised life is ok even though things are hard right now. Such a good one, thanks x
omg yes so much. don’t you hope that every young – or maybe also not young – AS reader finds a letter that could be for them? do you think it’s possible to know when a letter like that is for you? are people ever self-aware? i kept wondering how i would’ve reacted to this book or a letter like that at age 14 – like would it have mattered or made anything better or worse? i think i was unwilling to believe anything that i didn’t think of myself. i think i just learned how to do that actually.
anyway i keep refreshing too. everyone is so beautiful http://www.autostraddle.com/read-a-fcking-book-win-a-copy-of-the-letter-q-138359/#comments
How can I minimize my pores? I’ve heard baking soda works, but I haven’t tried it
You can actually physically make your pores smaller– you can only temporarily minimize their appearance. You need them, you know, for sweating and stuff.
I like doing those pore strips because they feel cool. And washing my face with something with little scrubby dots in the morning because it also feels cool.
What I’m trying to say is there are probably some ways to minimize the appearance of your pores but most of what people do is just for routine/superstition. And I have huge pores but no one has ever said to me “You would be really pretty if it weren’t for those pores”
What is the best outfit for a femme to wear on a first date without looking like I’m trying too hard?
Skinny jeans, black boots, black v-neck, scarf, optional cardigan.
BAM.
I love your recent snappy formspring ‘tude
Sometimes I don’t know the answers to your questions but they seem deserving of answers. So I make the jokes.
the pen pal thing seems genius. I’m 17, and not out to my parents. Will there be anything regarding people who can’t be receiving rainbow envelopes in the mail?
i know i said don’t tell me all your secrets, but i totally think that’s a thing worth telling me in your email! there are enough of you that i think i can match you up with each other if you think that a mutually-beneficial secrecy pact between you and your pen pal is a thing you’re interested in.
I have long suspected that I might bisexual for a while now but sometimes I can’t tell the difference between wanting to be WITH a girl or if I want to BE her. any advice?
i used to think i wanted to be a lot of girls. it made me really sad because it was exhausting trying to stretch myself in all these ways that i don’t bend. then i figured out that i just wanted to be me. oh, and then i was gay. and then i fell in love and then i got my heart broken and then i realized that i could love little parts of all those amazing girls and women and carry them around so that i could be a better version of me. and now i take that me and hang with ladeez.
but that’s just me. maybe if there’s a specific girl you should take her to get ice cream and see how it goes.