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…because truly “Are You My Mother?” isn’t just about this narrative, or about the particular self of Bechdel or her mother; it’s about how hard it was for Bechdel’s mother to have this book written and why, despite how much she wanted to avoid hurting her mother, Bechdel was so driven to do it anyways. It’s about why we circle back and obsess endlessly about our parents, both in therapy and in our lives. It’s about the part of growing up that is giving up on getting exactly what you wanted out of a person you love so that you can move on with your life. It’s a book about why we write books like this; more specifically, about why women tell these stories and ask these kinds of questions out loud despite the legitimate personal and professional risks it may entail. Which seems, inarguably, a story worth telling.
I wore my YOLO shirt and denim shorts to the concert, and carried a “You Do You” tote. I was very seriously hoping someone would recognize the eternal philisophical connection between Autostraddle’s mantra and Drake’s former motto, “I’m Doing Me.”
break up advice? is there any chance of getting back together even if it was mutual?
i feel like if you made a mutual decision to break up, it’s because you both wanted to break up? so if you are gonna make a mutual decision to get back together, then you should get back together. i think above all, one must do what one wants to do.
11. Don’t get confused, though: Unless you are actually poor, you are not actually poor.
I know I said “poor” in item #10, but I was being lazy. I’m sorry. What I really meant was “broke.” Don’t get some chip on your shoulder about how disenfranchised you are because all you have is a liberal arts degree and 100 Top Ramens. It will make you sound silly and careless. Some people have been systemically disadvantaged their entire lives and now they live in their cars and don’t even have Bottom Ramen. Here’s an easy way to tell the difference: If you got arrested, do you have someone that could bail you out of jail? If the answer is yes, then you are broke and not poor. “Poor” is not a game. You are “broke.”
