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Laneia, I’ve always thought tattoos were silly/regrettable because you’d change your mind & trends change &&&, but I heard about someone getting an = and I think it’s super cute but is that faddy? Also, how do you EVER trust someone to draw on you?

the first tattoos i got are so so dumb. they’re just stupid. i hate them. i didn’t do any research and i just got them to get them and i haaaate them.

but! the last one that i got is something that i LOVE. and it’s like a birthmark. and the way i found a person i could trust to draw on my skin is that i looked on yelp for the highest rated shops and read all the reviews and looked at their websites. then i walked into the place thinking i would make an appointment with this one guy bc his art was the art i liked the most (they had samples on the website – that’s a good thing to look for/at), but he was booked through the next 5 months and i’ll be frank with you, i didn’t have 5 months. i felt like i could die in 5 months i needed this on my arm before i died. so! against my better judgment, i went with this other guy whose art was totally NOT my style. we talked – i showed him my picture and he had a million feelings. he was super excited to do this new style, which i described to him as “a faded illustration from a vintage children’s book.” and of course he nailed it.

they do a sketch of the tattoo first, so you can tweak it from there. then they transfer it onto your skin and that’s when you make sure the placement is right. you can critique and change anything during any of this time. they can reposition the transfer as many times as you want. they’re more than willing to make it perfect for you. and then you just sit back and enjoy the feeling of getting it, because really how many times will anything ever feel like that?

anyway i have a lot of feelings about tattoos i think. i hope you find something you love.

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Pubic hair question: I have really lots of really coarse hair. and my skin is really sensitive. So I can’t stand shaving. And I can’t stand the pain of waxing. I’ve tried trimming, but below the pubic “mound” it just looks weird. Do you have any tips?

Just leave it alone. I’m sure it looks lovely just the way it is. Or get one of those razors with the electric “private area trimmer” on the back.

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Hi! I’m 22, and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’ve been out for two years, though (because I just knew), and I suffer from all kinds of envy and sexual frustration. I don’t know where to go to meet someone. What do I do?

go to the gym. unless you are at my gym, there will be lots of hot and queery people. i know this because i have been to other gyms and they are just packed with sexy queermos. if you don’t know what the eff you’re supposed to be doing at the gym, even better! now you have a reason to go talk to someone. if that doesn’t work, you can go home feeling like a content badass knowing that you lifted heavy shit and successfully talked to a girl. baby steps.

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how do i branch out in terms of fashion? like, i try to like, go hard femme, pastels with doc martens etc but i feel like i look silly and end up wearing what i usually wear i;e jeans and a cardigan. I’M SUCH A SAD PERSON.

I once asked my mom what it was like wearing all the cool fashions in the 60是,70s and 80s and she said to me “Lizzie, the truth is that my entire life I and everyone around me have pretty much worn jeans and a T-shirt.” So basically don’t worry about it if you can’t commit to crazy styles.

But sometimes you have to just know you look awesome, not silly, and force yourself out the door.

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what does a young femme wear to her brother’s military graduation in texas? part of me wants to go dykey femme, like, a black polka dot housewife dress, red heels, red lips because he’ll probably get a kick out of it, BUT I REALLY DON’T WANNA WEAR BLACK.

Your brother’s graduation is about him so you might not want to draw attention away from him by wearing anything too showy. Also graduations are usually held outside in the burning hot sun. I would suggest a somewhat neutral but cute and LIGHTWEIGHT cotton day dress.

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Hello Laura! OKAY SO, I want to do the pen pal thing because I’d really adore a penpal but I am a straight gal and I am also Muslim and I’m afraid nobody will want to be my penpal and I’ll get penpal shamed. IS THIS OKAY?Can I still participate? Should I?

Hello Girl! OHMYGOSH YES PLEASE. It’s not a mail-order dating service; it’s a project for likeminded creatures who want to get fun in their mailbox. I just want everyone to have a pen pal and feel the love.

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