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Wilder Hungers: Pineapple Rum Cake and The Catskills

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I haven’t been able to stop eating ice cream because it’s so freaking hot outside (not mad about it). I really appreciate unusual ice cream flavors these days. The other day I had pineapple manchego from Oddfellows and a Speculoos waffle ice cream sandwich from Wafels and Dinges. Have you heard of speculoos? It’s like a spiced biscuit spread and it belongs on our waffles and on everything…

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Evan Rachel Wood Bisexual Is Single Again: What Does This Mean For You?

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Professional attractive person Evan Rachel Wood and unlikely-but-determined ballet dancer husband Jamie Bellhave reportedly split after two years of marriage. The couple met in 2005 while starring in Green Day’s video for “Wake Me Up When September Ends,” and wed in 2012. Their son, whose name has not been made available to the public, was born in July of 2013.…

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Confessions of a Beauty Queer: The Best Goodbye of My Life

Everyone keeps asking me, “What was it like navigating the pageant world as a queer woman?” I’m honestly not sure what answer anyone is looking for, but the answer I have is simple: It wasn’t like anything. Why? Because I was strung out on denial. Denial is a real thing — it wasn’t just my a way to cope, it was my lifestyle. Living in denial changed my views, opinions, and perspectives on life…

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Lez Liberty Lit #47: Filled With Poetry

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Maya Angelou has died at age 86.
In an interview with the Rumpus, Janet Mock discusses her memoir Redefining Realness, misogyny, her family, having a sense of community, conversations about language and more:
“I think it [the Marie Clairestory] forced a lot of people who weren’t having these conversations about trans people to develop better language. And my whole thing on CNN…

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Yo. Who’s coming with me to Autostraddle’s A-Camp next year?? I’ve been convinced that it’s worth buying a plane ticket for/it looks amazingly fun. Trying to recruit some queer frands to come with me! Caaaaaamp!

Faking It Episode 106 Recap: I Promise This Threesome Won’t Be Weird At All

Welcome to the sixth recap of the first season of Faking It, a gothic horror story from the network that brought you Bam’s Unholy Union and From G’s to Gents.
We open in Amy’s boudior, where our favorite fake lesbian couple, Karma and Amy, are chatting about that time Karma told that slab of roast beef she has a crush on that they could all enjoy a little three-way summer cabbage together as a…

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WNBA Makes Pro Sports History, Announces National LGBT Pride Platform

The WNBA has announced a national LGBT Pride platform, making them the first professional sports league to do so. The league’s 12 teams will integrate marketing, media, grassroots efforts, and social responsibility into the program which is sponsored by CoverGirl. It hopes to not only embrace members of the LGBT community, who have been longtime supporters of the league, but also combat anti-LGBT…

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“We Thought We Had The Voice Forever”: In Memoriam of Maya Angelou

“I thought we’d get to see forever, but forever’s gone away…” — Boyz II Men
“I just thought she would live forever. I don’t know why but I thought she would.” This message appeared in my all social media timelines over and over again yesterday. Yesterday, we lost a defining voice in our culture. One that defined strength, courage, honor and wisdom. It became the small voice in the back of our…

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Dear Queer Diary: Top Secret

There is nothing in the definition of the word “diary” to imply that it must be kept secret. According to my dear pal Google, a diary is simply “a book in which one keeps a daily record of events and experiences.” And yet, a non-secret diary is a bit like an ice cream sundae without hot fudge, or Tegan without Sara. I have never shared more than a few sentences of mine. In my book (pun…

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It’s okay Amy, this happens to all of us girls who are shitty at being girls. Your next move is to find a really feminine Type A girlfriend who can play the role of feminine Type A daughter your mother always longed for, while earning you personality points by proxy. Personally I never accomplished this, because rather than fitting neatly into a butch or femme box, I simply embody all the negative aspects of both stereotypes. I can’t do your hair or fix your cabinet

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I have no idea where to begin as to how A-Camp was, it was that phenomenal. So if you really want to know, ask specific questions and I can start from there. However, as I told a friend, I can tell you that coming back from A-Camp and into the real world is like being tucked under three...

After reading about Rodger’s “manifesto” — I couldn’t read it myself — I was struck by how impossible his demands on women were. How impossible the general demands on women are — doubly so for black women, other women of color, trans women. The list of everything expected of women as a group and a woman as an individual goes on for days, and even when those requirements are satisfied, there still remains some patriarchal reasoning for why she deserves pain. Thinking of Rodger, thinking of saying yes and saying no: the rule of the sexual contract means that once you’ve said yes to anything, anyone, then you have relinquished all rights to safety or choice, and you can be blamed for anything that’s done to you. The rule of compulsory sexual availability means that if you say no to any man, any time, his anger will be deserved, and you can be blamed for anything that’s done to you. Maybe nowhere is this violent and impossible double bind more clear than in the case of the overwhelming violence against trans women, often killed by men who are sexually attracted to them — saying no to sex is unforgivable, but saying yes and having a trans female body can be too. Within patriarchy’s guidelines, any failure to meet a man’s sexual expectations is enough of a transgression to be punishable by death. So many of us spent so much time — still do — trying to figure out which choices we can make to avoid being hurt, avoid being in danger. I know I did, and do. How to turn down the drunk, surly guy who my male friends keep inviting to parties in such a way that he won’t follow me out to my car. How to respond to catcalls from a car when I’m on the sidewalk on an empty street in such a way that they won’t chase me or run me down. How to react to a sexist joke from a sexist boss in such a way that I won’t get my hours cut for unspoken reasons. The idea that our actions have consequences, that we can to some small degree control outcomes in our lives is so seductive that we keep trying to work out the right combination. When we start to feel like that’s not possible, like we aren’t able to take any actions that will affect our lives — when we do everything right but we still get shoved into an alley or wall or back of a car — it can start to get difficult to keep going.

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Asking the Question: When Public Interrogation of Trans Women’s Bodies Turns into Open Sexualized Violence

While the media has a long history of sensationalizing stories involving trans people, in the last few months a number of debates have erupted in response to mainstream media figures asking prominent trans women invasive and inappropriate questions about their bodies during interviews. While the response from those media figures to criticism over this line of questioning has varied from equivocat…

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