While I’m strongly in favor not being shitty to trans people, not being a jerk does not an ally make. You can’t half-ass your way to allyhood. I don’t have the option to only be trans when it’s convenient and safe, so if you’re really interested in progress for our community, you have to jump in with both feet.
We must see our communities as having a greater stake in the safety of our queer siblings. I refuse to settle for statistics and sad news stories. Community response and action is the foundation of survival for marginalized communities, and it always has been.
I don’t really like generalizing about queer women — we’re all different, we’re like rainbow snowflakes, some of us have never even seen The L Word. But I will make an exception for this statement: get a bunch of us in a room for long enough and we will start talking about whether two cisgender women will ever be able to produce a biological child together.
So I’m currently taking Autostraddle’s Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey and
I’m taking this so seriously, ya’ll.
From Heather Hogan’s 6.01 recap on “Autostraddle”; (you should know that she is well and truly over glee, but is often painfully on point):
“Kurt was doing that thing where he’d been having an argument in his head with Imaginary Blaine for like the last twenty minutes and when Actual Blaine walked in, he landed in the middle of the fight that was already happening”.
Imagine that the person who makes you feel shitty about yourself is very tiny, like a Borrower, and is trapped inside a Mason jar. They’re perfectly safe there and they can breathe just fine, but you can’t hear their voice through the glass and in fact you can barely even make out their face because they’re so small and now you’re putting the entire jar into a filing cabinet drawer out of sight and you never have to think about them again.
America can’t thrive off of violence and death and still define the moral high ground for liberation.
