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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Who’s Ready for Spring Cleaning?

FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Who’s Ready for Spring Cleaning?

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HEY THERE current and former interns of Fraggle Rock, welcome to the Friday Open Thread, where we sit in a circle and tell each other which colors look prettiest with our eyes. Just kidding, actually we talk about our week and its highs and lows and whether we adopted a pug or got our cars broken into or BOTH.

I don’t know what it’s like in your neck of the woods, but warmer, sunnier weather is…

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Also.Also.Also: Matriarchal Feminism, Defining Authenticity, and Other Stories You’ll Fcking Love

Also.Also.Also: Matriarchal Feminism, Defining Authenticity, and Other Stories You’ll Fcking Love

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Are you loving this new Daily Fix / News Fix / AAA situation?? I believe you are. Just a few more days of this spring break and my wily children will be back in their classrooms and I’ll be back to being the only person in my house and I WILL TYPE NEXT FRIDAY’S AAA IN THE NUDE you can’t stop me. No one can stop me.

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Pretty Little Liars Episode 524 Recap: Oooh, Barracuda!

Pretty Little Liars Episode 524 Recap: Oooh, Barracuda!

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Previously on Pretty Little Liars, Alison went to trial for murdering Mona Vanderwaal and Hanna went to jail for murdering Mona Vanderwaal and Rosewood’s own prosecutor named the Liars as co-conspirators in the fake kidnapping of Alison DiLaurentis which lead to the murder of Mona Vandwerwaal, but nobody thought to say that it’s impossible for any of these people to be guilty of murdering Mona…

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Babbit’s new film, FRESNO, premiered at SXSW this weekend and I sat with her before it happened, so this interview is sort of out-of-date, but it’s whatever. During the interview I learned a few key points:
“(1) Jamie Babbit works with all of her...

Babbit’s new film, FRESNO, premiered at SXSW this weekend and I sat with her before it happened, so this interview is sort of out-of-date, but it’s whatever. During the interview I learned a few key points:

(1) Jamie Babbit works with all of her wives.

(2) Jamie Babbit has been trying to put dildos in her films for YEARS.

(3) Jamie Babbit did not want to hang out in Cleveland for long enough to make a movie.

Here is the interview, once you’ve finished reading, please tell me what you’ve learned.

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Remember when I invited you all to come on out (pun intended) for this year’s National Young Feminist Leadership Conference? Me, too, even though it feels like it was eons ago. Were we ever so young? Was I ever so awake? Did I ever spend a day not...

Remember when I invited you all to come on out (pun intended) for this year’s National Young Feminist Leadership Conference? Me, too, even though it feels like it was eons ago. Were we ever so young? Was I ever so awake? Did I ever spend a day not swimming in to-do lists and conference planning meetings? Who knows. All I know is, we’re here, we’re queer, and we’re gonna smash the patriarchy together. But we might as well get a drink or some food or just a moment to appreciate our friendship together, too!

You Should Go: Me, You, and Everyone We Know at NYFLC Should See Each Other’s Faces!

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Riese and I have written about this a lot in our recaps this season, but it should be repeated (forever, really): Way back during “Sectionals,” the 13th episode of season one, Brittany said a thing that wasn’t meant to stick. It was meant as a joke: “Sex isn’t dating; if it were, Santana and I would be dating.” If she’d said that at any other time in history, maybe it would have just floated on by. But she said it during a perfect storm of Prop. 8 backlash, a horrific pandemic of gay teenagers committing suicide after being bullied, and the rise of Twitter. Suddenly, lesbian fandom had a way to talk to the people who made TV, and there was a justified fire inside them, and they were not backing down.

Santana resonated with so many lesbians who had never seen themselves represented on TV before (see above) and Brittany resonated with so many queer women who didn’t feel the need to bag-and-tag their sexual orientation (see below). And, of course, falling in love with your best friend is a lesbian rite of passage. For six seasons, lesbian fandom demanded to be heard, to be represented fairly, to be able to watch see story that was meant to be, right on their TVs. Every milestone of Brittany and Santana’s relationship happened because of lesbian fandom. From their first (actual, real) kiss to their wedding. The Lesbian Blogger Community didn’t quit when the show’s creators chided them on social media, mocked them inside the show, or tried very hard to ignore them. When I write the book on lesbian fandom, I will point to Brittana fans as the ones who changed the world.

9 Things “Glee” Did Right: On Bullying, Burt, Brittana, One Straight Butch and A Straight-Up Bitch | Autostraddle

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“It seems like there are two issues here: shyness about initiating actual sexytimes, and you both being bottoms.
If you both have sad/bad histories, unlearning bad habits from your pasts and practicing consent is important and I’m glad you’re doing...

It seems like there are two issues here: shyness about initiating actual sexytimes, and you both being bottoms.

If you both have sad/bad histories, unlearning bad habits from your pasts and practicing consent is important and I’m glad you’re doing it. I’m wondering, though, whether some of the shyness in initiation comes from not quite getting there when you talk about consent. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in thinking about all the situations you don’t want and all of the ways there are to say no and set boundaries, without focusing on what you do want and all of the ways there are to say yes. Setting boundaries is obviously important, both with yourself and with partners, but so is building a foundation of trust in which you both know what you want and have communicated it, and in which you both feel not only safe saying no but excited about saying yes.

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“I mentioned “The Puppy Episode” at the beginning of this review because when I tuned into One Big Happy tonight, I figured everyone I know would be watching too, for sentiment’s sake alone. I am surrounded by queer pop culture aficionados. But I...

I mentioned “The Puppy Episode” at the beginning of this review because when I tuned into One Big Happy tonight, I figured everyone I know would be watching too, for sentiment’s sake alone. I am surrounded by queer pop culture aficionados. But I don’t know anyone besides me and my girlfriend (and Riese and her girlfriend) who watched the show live. Some of my friends were still reeling on Pretty Little Liars, which aired right before One Big Happy. Some of my friends were watching Laverne Cox over on The Mindy Project. Some of my friends were catching a rerun of The Fosters. Some of my friends were doing their weekly Defiance rewatch. They were all watching queer women on TV, but none of them were watching One Big Happy.

It made me wonder if the lasting legacy of Ellen is that it was the springboard that created a culture where she can executive produce a sitcom about a lesbian character, and gay women are only just sort of peripherally interested in it. A world where One Big Happy can fly or flop, and it won’t really be a big deal, in terms of queer representation on television. What a sad, weird, kind of wonderful thing.

Let’s Talk About Ellen and Liz Feldman’s New Lesbian Sitcom “One Big Happy” | Autostraddle

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Whenever I see people talk about this issue, it makes me feel like they’re sort of saying that since I’m a trans woman, I don’t count as a real lesbian. That “real” lesbian culture is only for cis lesbians and that that culture is in direct opposition to me, excludes me. But I’m a real lesbian, and so the lesbian community is my community, just as much as the trans woman community is my community.
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“1. I heard that this show was the lesbian version of Sex and the City which is not at all true. They don’t delve into fashion at all.
2. To all the men who have daughters…… KEEP THEM AWAY FROM THIS SICK SHOW.
3. This show bored me to tears. The plot...

1. I heard that this show was the lesbian version of Sex and the City which is not at all true. They don’t delve into fashion at all.

2. To all the men who have daughters…… KEEP THEM AWAY FROM THIS SICK SHOW.

3. This show bored me to tears. The plot was a total drag. I don’t care if someone is a lesbian but for heaven sake there is more to life than picking up people for sex, etc.

4. I gave this show a fair chance. I watched the pilot and the next 4 eps. The characters are anorexic, they’re way too focused on each other’s lives (busy bodies from hell on crank), they’re not working nearly hard enough to afford living in LA, and they’re just not that interesting.

5. Way too raunchy! Story line could be good but falls short due to over abundance of porn scenes.

Listling Without Commentary: 22 Excerpts From Brutal Amazon Customer Reviews Of “The L Word”

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