Yeah, I have a lot of feelings about being mixed-race… Though they’re very mushy and hard to put into words.
Autostraddle co-founder Riese’s “41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring” gave me the feels too. The hilarious article’s diversity of experience is striking and had me recalling my own thoughts on the act.
First of all, what the hell is scissoring?
I DO think that I have some talents, and I feel thankful for them, but in general I feel like the presiding quality in my life isn’t an excess of talent, but rather an excess of patience. The performance aspects of my life are rooted in a certain amount of talent, as is my visual art/illustration, but the DIY stuff that I do (sewing and building and deodorant making and gluten free baking and shoe making, etc.) aren’t talents I was born with, they are just things I was interested in learning about, so I tried them, and failed at them. But I didn’t stop starting over.
Everything is amazing or everything is terrible or every day is a deep grey wasteland broken only by the occasional urge to pee.
Relax, bro. Bears can climb trees, swim across oceans, run 100 miles per hour, and smell your fear, so whatever you do, don’t panic!
Jade and Althea first lock eyes during Gabe and Pearl’s wedding, when Jade is walking down the aisle as part of the wedding procession. They both immediately feel a connection. Later, they have a series of run-ins that escalate into friendship that escalates into something more complicated. Jade is set to marry David, a member of another prominent Chinese Filipino family, and their eventual marriage is foretold to bring great fortune to both families. David, as far as I can tell, enjoys being a Nice Guy and looking worried while wearing collared shirts.
Sometimes, you spend so many years breathing the atmosphere of a place that you find yourself exhausted and winded when you spend time outside of that comfortable bubble known as “home.” If you were to ever leave, you would break so many hearts, including your own. This is the essential conflict of being queer in a small, conservative town: Should you chose to live openly and unapologetically, you might be rejected by the very people and things you’ve spent 14, 2o, or even 47 years loving. You might even come to resent the place for the same reason you love it: It never changes.
The area in which there are the most commandments in fashion is body shape/size. Stripes are for the tall and lean, dress for your height, wear “flattering” clothing if you aren’t thin, also known as “bland and/or black articles of clothing.” I don’t really care about any of those rules. The most flattering style for you is the one you feel the best in. I’m a short and chubby person, and my closet is chock full of patterns (horizontal stripes too). This has caused little to no detriment to my life. In fact, my sartorial leanings have helped me connect with like minded folks and sweet peeps. Sometimes the guidelines are for suckers. - Lydia O via I Just Wanna Break The Rules: 3 Ways to be a Fashion Rebel
P.S. I have heard straight people talk about how after a date they will not text someone for multiple days even though they like them. Heterosexuals are straight up psychos. - Brittani
