How do you find an officiant? What do officiants do? How will my stuff, which is mostly a few boxes of books and sex toys, get to LA? Will I end up hiring a lawyer at some point? Do we need to decorate? When will Shannon give her family the details? What will we do about music? What if [insert interview anxiety here]?
We’re not going to sit here and listen to what makes y’all think you’re different from Dylann Roof anymore. Your cowardice is the same as his, and that cowardice trickles down and calcifies into a bedrock of systemic racism that destroys black communities, whether it’s a tiny white girl tear, a 10-gallon-full cowboy hat or the self-satisfied, faux-liberal killer mist of racism a la The Hunger Games.
You either care enough to do what’s hard and what’s right, or you are the same as him, you really are. Two sides, same coin.
Show up. Stop making excuses, it’s killing people. Stand up to your friends and your colleagues and your family members. Support each other when you see someone standing up to racism. Power in numbers works both ways — use yours for good. Quit coddling ignorance because it’s easier, or because you’re afraid, or because it feels better.
“Personally, the thing that mattered the most to me was telling the whole
stories of women in history who tend to get relegated to supporting
roles while telling the greater stories of men, which is bullshit. Women in history have incredibly compelling narratives
in their own right and my favorite part about writing this show was
falling in love with the stories of strong, impassioned women through
the ages.” - Ela Darling