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White America will look you dead in the eye after a white policeman cracks open the jaw of a 12-year-old girl in a bathing suit or empties his bullets into a 12-year-old playing in a park, and say, without a trace of irony, “They’re just doing their jobs,” and go to the trouble of creating #NotAllCops because the idea that even the most innocent black lives matter is unpalatable. Efforts to bring attention to police brutality since Oscar Grant in 2009 have grown substantially, but the media still uses language to relentlessly shame and silence national protest, which gets parroted by White America in derailment Bingo-winning dialogue on any subject having to do with race.
Aja via Show Up, White America: The Opposite Of Support Is Silence
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julianunes: “HI First I wanna say that if you noticed I took down a bunch of my youtube videos, THANKS. It means a lot that you’re paying attention. I love those videos too. They’re a pretty amazing time capsule of who I was/where I started, both of...
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HI

First I wanna say that if you noticed I took down a bunch of my youtube videos, THANKS. It means a lot that you’re paying attention. I love those videos too. They’re a pretty amazing time capsule of who I was/where I started, both of which I am super proud. I can’t wait to look back on that stuff 10 years from now, tiny little me, figuring some stuff out in front of the Internet.

There’s not a lot of opportunity for nostalgia now that everything is on the Internet. I can scroll through the last 7 to 10 years of all of my friends lives. It’s all right there, on the surface, reminding us, even though we haven’t forgotten. I want to give myself the opportunity to look back on this stuff the same way I look back on the rare documentation of me in a dress in high school or the coveted pictures of my butterfly clip days and for that to happen, they need to go away for a bit.

That’s not the only reason I took them down though. I’m putting out an album real soon and I’m super fucking proud of it. I love it. I’m dancing around my apartment to this album (on 1 leg bc my knee is still healing) and I WANT EVERYONE ELSE TO HEAR IT. I’m going for it you guys. I got an incredibly chill/cool/sweet PR company (shout out Nate at Impulse Artists!!) and I’m shooting fancy music videos and rehearsing with my BAND so we can play the arena stage at VidCon IN A WEEEEEK!!! With every step I get more and more excited about what this year could hold for me. I wanna play huge shows AND living room shows. I wanna do fancy high profile interviews AND super honest/impromptu Q&As on tumblr (shh I’m gonna do that right after I publish this, message me!!)

I took down a bunch of videos bc I don’t want what I’m doing now to be lost amongst what I’ve done for the past 8 years. I don’t want the best thing I’ve ever done to be 10% of what you can find if you’re looking. I want anyone who is just finding me now to see who I really am. Later, they can dig deep into the internet and find my nose ring but until then I wanna greet the world as I am now.

What’s cool is, everyone who’s been with me since the beginning is in a secret club. The people who knew The Quarry Men before they were The Beatles. The original crew who loved Unique Attraction before they were BOYZ II MEN. That’s us… Well that’s you guys… I’m neither of them. I’m Julia Nunes and I’m not changing my name but lots of other stuff has changed. I used to think I was a bad driver and now I know I’m not. I used to think I had an anger problem, turns out I don’t. I used to be on a constant “diet” but, like, diets never work and I was sad about it. Now I just eat veggies and fruit and fish (+some other delicious treats that are so healthy and good buuut lets talk about that in another long winded think piece) and my body has reacted in a million positive ways. I used consider myself a very “low maintenance” person but really, I wasn’t taking care of myself. Now, I’m much better at figuring out what I need and then actually going for it. I used to only write songs in times of deep distress, which wasn’t super often because I was very out of touch with my emotions. Now I write songs pretty constantly. I wrote like 80 half formed songs before I decided on the 11 that are on Some Feelings. There are dance tracks on this album but there is also a track that is just me (barely keeping it together) and a uke. “Fondly Enough” is maybe the saddest thing I’ve ever written, so in that way, I haven’t changed at all over the last 8 years. Still writing super sad rhyming diary entries.

There will always be resistance to change and the first roadblock is usually yourself. I think I was putting myself in a box there for a little bit, too beholden to the image I started with. It’s like coming on the scene as a disney star and having to freak out before you can really change up how people see you. I haven’t freaked out yet though so maybe I’m not doing it right.

Mostly I wanna say thanks for caring, thanks for changing with me.

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But more importantly — more telling of who you and we really are — we’ve seen you build entire communities around TV shows, support each other in coming out, make IRL friends and even find your future wives through the wonders of commenting. It’s been legitimately amazing. You’ve inspired people and changed their lives with your dedication to making this work. You’ve trusted each other, assumed good faith, reached out to newcomers, respectfully navigated grey areas that didn’t always come with obvious rights or wrongs, and generally changed the whole world, really. You’ve found a way to disagree with somebody while also making everybody laugh. We get emails all the time from readers who didn’t know anything about [trans issues, race issues, queer politics beyond marriage equality] and were grateful for the education.

We feel confident, after ten years of total immersion in internet dialogue, with stating the following: productive conversations only happen when we assume good faith and treat each other with the patience and kindness that we devote to conversations with our friends and others we know and respect.

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Basically, women came to the 2015 Eisners and took over. They dominated. They changed the game. When you take a look specifically at the wins for Lumberjanes, though, that’s a really, really big freaking deal. Like, I dunno if you’ve noticed, but that’s a mainstream, best-selling all-ages comic book about a diverse group of girls by a group of women, and all of it’s really, really queer. A book like that never could have existed when I was a kid, and definitely never could have won two awards at the Eisners! That’s where we are today: a comic that would’ve been dismissed as too queer, too girly and too niche to be successful, or even maybe publishable, a few years ago, is now a multiple Eisner winner and is selling like hotcakes. Right on.
Mey via Drawn to Comics: Lumberjanes, Other DtC Favs, Women and Queer Women Win Big at the Eisners! (via fuckyeahautostraddle)
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Orange Is the New Black Episode 306 Recap: All That Is Gold Does Not Glitter

Chang has a lot of secrets. The main one is she's a total badass!
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This discussion of Chang is really brilliant. I wanted to see so much more from her. I want them to rewrite it all and make it realistic and innovative and last a few episodes at least. She is a goldmine of a character and the writers may have squelched it. 

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We don’t believe that everything can be self-taught. Sometimes you can’t just Google something. Sometimes you’d rather get an education from somebody you trust, and not the first Tumblr that pops up. A single mother who works two jobs to support her family and never went to college doesn’t necessarily have the time to teach herself queer theory before jumping into a community like ours. Teenagers in small towns without any queer resources and no access to feminist literature come here knowing literally nothing, and that’s actually totally okay. We have readers who are the only queer person of color in their town, the only trans woman in their town, the only gay in the village, who desperately need a safe space to be themselves. We have readers who aren’t fluent in academia and we also have a lot of readers who aren’t fluent in English, either. We have readers who have the resources but still mess up sometimes and that is also okay.
We’re here to say that we will absolutely forgive those of us who are still learning — about the world and also themselves, their place in it. We believe that sometimes it is up to us, and to you, to assume good faith when it makes sense, and to educate people when we can. We want to intentionally leave room for the grey areas that don’t have obvious rights and wrongs, because that’s where growth happens. When we respectfully engage in conversations and we take on the role of being someone else’s sounding board and help them hash out their understanding of various topics and experiences, we necessarily affect change.
Riese via What We Comment About When We Comment About Commenting (via fuckyeahautostraddle)
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For the past few months, and the past few weeks especially, I’ve been going along, filled with a vague sense of worry and uncertainty and the feeling that the next steps of my life are largely in someone else’s hands (what’s up immigration officials), and working basically all the time (I am normally very into my work, but this is something else) and not keeping up with friends and not sleeping all that well and doing none of the things my body normally needs to make it happy and at some point this weekend I just sort of cracked? What I mean to say is, when I woke up Saturday I was going to get a lot of stuff done and I was just pretty focused on that and by mid Sunday afternoon I had cried for about 12 of my weekend waking hours, of which there had not been many, because I kept needing to go to bed.
This week in Love & Canada, I reached the maximum number of things it is possible to worry about, finished my immigration paperwork, moved some books, and decided to embrace wedding decor. (via carolynyates)