WIMO is on Autostraddle today!!!
A new book is out that will speak to many the gender binary doesn’t quite fit, as well as others who have struggled to find the courage to live in ways that are true to themselves.
Don’t be afraid. Your fear can be your own worst enemy. If you want something, make sure the want overrides the fear.
It is particularly challenging to me because I am not sure how I identify. I was married to men twice and only dated men. I don’t remember being attracted to women sexually. Until Lisa. I don’t think it mattered to me what her gender was, I just loved her, loved being with her, loved who I was with her. If she died, I’m not sure what direction I would go in. Oh, and I do know how that sounds, “gender doesn’t matter to me.” Kind of pompous, like, oh, I’m so evolved that I’m beyond gender. But all I know is that I love her. I’m attracted to her. In spite of or because of her gender, I really don’t know. And I don’t care. Knowing that answer wouldn’t really change anything.