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…what was there to be excited about, knowing that getting the Peaches & Cream Barbie you had been pining over might be the reason your family didn’t have hot water for a week? I learned early on how to settle for less, how to exaggerate thankfulness and hide disappointment, how to never be the cause of undo stress for my Mom. This was probably easy for me to navigate as a kid because Christmas with my Dad was such a different experience; a boisterous, joyful occasion spent with my cousins and my grandma, my uncles and aunt, opening presents whose cost never concerned me. This was the privilege my Dad got to have; since he only had custody of me for two weekends out of the month, he could make sure that every moment we spent together was precious and perfect. If he struggled with money issues, he only voiced his concerns during the weekdays when I wasn’t around. But this is also the effect of having grandparents who didn’t want to be a part of your life. My white mother had been shunned by her parents for dating outside her race, and they were estranged for most of my childhood. Christmas with just my Mom felt quiet and sad. She did her best to make the day exciting for me, but on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate love, family and togetherness, she could never recreate the experience I had at my Dad’s house. I remember feeling guilty about being excited for my Dad to pick me up to spend Christmas with him — I hated to leave my Mom by herself with nothing to keep her company but our beautiful tree and the never-ending loop of Christmas songs on the radio. The insidious trickle-down effect of racism was never more prevalent for me than during the Christmas holidays.
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Holy moly look how cute this is!! It’s the DIY passport and downloadable stamps from our local travel challenge! So cute, Tanya!! ☺️

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This is a very important post imo. You may have noticed I write less often now than I did before. This is because I refuse to go beneath a certain amount of $ per article (or really, per word), because to do so would literally prevent me from paying my rent. I get incredibly uncomfortable with the idea that I’m a successful writer insomuch as success being linked to financial security. Being a freelancer is it’s own kind of hellish work and comes with some financial sacrifices if you aren’t lucky enough to have contracted print work or a cushion side job as a consultant or in copy-writing (both of which pay much more than writing does, but editors are less likely to hire you for pieces if they know you have consulted for brands in your field before – so it comes with sacrifices). As a freelancer I don’t have to go into an office at all, ever, but I also don’t have company health insurance or benefits in any shape or form and my pieces aren’t owned by me unless I can negotiate my contracts to give me ownership – and most contracts for most publications don’t give you that option. The strength of a freelancer is in their network and clips, but mostly, realistically, in their network and transparency in who pays what and if the editors and invoicing team are good people. Freelancing rates differ so wildly and it’s so important to have people you know and trust looking out for you and being transparent about what they got from their editors at the publication, too. I don’t write for some places because they offered me much less than they offered my white colleagues for the same word count and less research And my rates at some of the places I’ve worked for have changed dramatically in between editors.  And I know places that offered $25 to my friends but have offered me $750. The rates even in this piece are not entirely accurate from what I know of them! There’s not really a way to keep up. There is no transparency and often no reasoning or explanation. 

 I don’t write for Autostraddle anymore (though I love them SO much) because it is not financially feasible for me to do so when I can give my essays to places that pay double or triple etc their going rate. But the places that may pay more of a livable wage might have shitty editors or their invoicing might take 30-90 days, which doesn’t really help when your rent is due at the end of the month, not in 90 days. So it’s not only a question of who pays what, but when and if they pay at all or easily, if the edits are good, all these things. I kill pieces rather than having bad edits, to the detriment of my bank account. And if there’s no kill fee you’re entirely fucked on the work and time you put down. 

TLDR I guess what I’m saying is that money/writing is a negotiation in sacrifices in most ways and when people criticize certain bylines or publications I don’t think it’s really fair or nuanced enough. If I could make a living surviving by only publishing with places that had perfect, defensible politics at all times, I would do so, gladly! That place doesn’t exist. In reality you can either have complete control over your work and publish only in indies and make no money from doing that or you can try to survive and write for imperfect places and do your best and have it be out of your hands in a lot of ways. I mean you can do a mix but that is a very CLEAR opportunity cost and not one I can ignore or afford right now. I have a lot of cynicism towards the media industry, especially being within it. It’s so frustrating to know that when I eventually go somewhere full time, people are going to be bitter about it and question my ethics for going somewhere, when they have no clue about the context of the industry or the decisions involved. 

thelingerieaddict

Speaking on the other side of this (editor of an indie blog, no industry connections/startup capital, in a permanent state of bootstrapping), articles like this are so important for making the financial struggles of websites run by marginalized folks more transparent.

Most popular websites have venture funding.

Most popular websites have venture funding.

Most popular websites have venture funding.

And this: “When we sneer at indies for failing to earn the money necessary to compensate their writers or interns at Vice Media levels, we are seemingly advocating for the little guy, but, in fact, are crushing a whole bunch of other little guys in the process.”
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Meh. If you can’t afford to pay your writers, then you can’t afford to run a publication. But that’s just me.

thelingerieaddict

I don’t think that’s an inaccurate statement, and it ties into larger discussions about fair and living wages (i.e. can you really afford to run a business if your business relies on not paying people?).

However, this topic also links into other larger, structural conversations about the “face” of publishing and media, which you already know, I’m guessing. Why are most large publications owned by wealthy white people? Why are most of the writers and editors at these publications wealthy white people? How does an overrepresentation of wealthy white people affect what gets covered and how and why?

I think looking at who’s getting funded and who’s getting paid (i.e. who can afford to run a publication and who can afford to write for one) is part of that diversity conversation. In the same way talking about internships, educational pipelines, and networking is part of it. Publications like Autostraddle are necessary (to me), and I’m glad they’re discussing some of those things that rarely get talked about (especially because, if you’re indie, there’s this pressure to pretend you’re bigger than you are).

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