This is it; you’re at the end of the line—you officially know every ghey in your city. Friends. Friends of friends. Roommates of friends of friends. Exes. Crushes. Ex-flings. Acquaintances you always, always see out dancing but never actually meet. They’re all here, goddammit, and there’s nowhere to hide—there’s an awkward encounter waiting to ambush you in every room.
Whether it’s a sharp watch or a dramatic cape, the perfect accessory can ground a whole outfit and make it spectacular. Because accessories tend to be one-size-fits-all, they’re one of the easiest ways to blow off gender expectations in favor of looking like the royal babe you are. Timeless accessories can be worth the investment, because they look great throughout the seasons and tend to be pretty functional, too. When you’re shopping for the stunning gentlequeer in your life, consider an accessory that will set off their style and make you smile when you see them wear it every day.
Holigay Gift Guide 2015: Timeless Accessories For Your Favorite Gentlequeer
Soul food: it’s not just a cuisine, it’s a lifestyle. Soul food is historically rooted in Black American culture and its recipes are decedents of West African cuisine that made their way across the ocean during the Trans-Atlantic slave trade. Just as Black culture is always evolving, I think soul food is evolving too. My granny would never make greens without fat back, but honestly, I don’t know what fat back is and putting that in something I make doesn’t sound appetizing (although my grandmother’s greens are delicious). I’m also including a recipe for Jollof rice, which is a traditional West African dish.
I think all Jews need to come clean about what we really get for Hanukkah. Luckily, I have compiled eight charts for your reference.
When I started thinking about how to fight my Seasonal Affective Disorder this year, I made the terrifying decision that I would tell the people closest to me what I needed from them to help me fight my battles. I made that decision because I’ve tried to fight SAD all by myself for a decade and have never been successful. I made the decision because I’ve come to believe that my one wild and precious life will never be full if I don’t proactively, aggressively dismantle my childhood hardwiring.
We rounded up a whole bunch of DIY projects that will keep you busy the whole holigay season. (But it’s totally worth it.)
I was once Susan in Miracle on 34th Street, actually able to see Kris Kringle. I was Olive the Other Reindeer, mistaking a song about Rudolph as a cry for help from Santa, and becoming a holiday hero anyway. I was Buddy the Elf, giving out hugs because they’re my favorite. I was Cindy Lou Who. I was Tiny Tim. But mostly I was Kevin McAllister from Home Alone, protecting my turf from the dark forces that threatened to sneak in and ruin The Happiest Season of the Year.
Heather Hogan via Hate Actually: Can the Holigays Heal a Gay Grinch’s Heart?