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It has taken me years to understand that my instinctual draw to, yearning for, Can’t Eat Can’t Sleep Reach For The Stars Over The Fence World Series Kind Of Stuff tug I feel in my gut around a certain kind of woman with a certain kind of look and a certain kind of confidence —

it’s taken me years to connect this yearning to home. And it’s taken me years to feel comfortable with the fact that, for me, butch/femme is deeply connected to — might even come from — a particular kind way I was raised.

It’s not that way for everyone; god knows it’s not. Of course it’s not. Desire, attraction, connection are individual, impossible to pattern.

But for me. For me.

Jeanna via Wherever West Is | Autostraddle
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…it wasn’t long, of course, before I fell in love with a woman from shitkicker Kansas, who strutted into a room full of Boston academics wearing cowboy boots and flannel, a master storyteller who spun stories that could keep huge groups in her thrall. She smoked Marlboro Lights and kept half a dozen full bottles of whiskey on the top of her fridge as a reminder not to drink them. She was the best man I’d ever met, and I told her so. When she looked me in the eye and said thank you, the subtle twang in her voice reached parts of me I thought I’d buried.
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I still miss the trail all the time, but I do not miss the long distance hiking community and the behavior I contended with during my hike. I have some friends who had to get off the trail this year – for a variety of reasons including injuries and running out of money – who plan to return next year, to try again. I envy them, but I don’t think I’ll be returning to the Pacific Crest Trail until there’s a deliberate shift in community values and attitudes. This makes me sad and frustrated, but I’ve been trying to move forward and be grateful for the time on trail I did have, and hope that as more people speak up, things will change.

Why I Got Off the Pacific Crest Trail After 454 Miles Instead of Walking All the Way to Canada

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Lesbian Sex 101 is Autostraddle’s series on how to have lesbian sex for queer women and anyone who finds this information applicable to their bodies or sexual activities.

Sex ed almost never includes queer women or our experiences, so we’re exploring pleasure, safety, relationships and more to make that information more accessible. A lot of the language in these posts is intended to make them easy to find on search engines.

Some of the body parts we talk about will be yours or your partners’ and some won’t. Some of the pronouns will be yours or your partners’ and some won’t. Some of the sexualities will be yours or your partners’ and some won’t. Some of the language will be yours or your partners’ and some won’t. Take what you want and what applies to you or what you can make apply to you and your partners and your experiences, and leave the rest!

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I too have had my sense of my sexuality shift over the years: from asexual, to pansexual, to primarily lesbian, to “open to some sort of physical intimacy from certain kinds of guys given very specific circumstances.” Each shift brought about its own terrifying identity crisis, especially when I had just spent years coming to terms with my earlier understanding of my sexuality, going through the process of coming out to myself and others, and even ending or changing relationships. It was like a core part of my identity was broken. Who was I really? Was I wrong about myself? Was I living a lie? Is everything I know wrong? Is my life over? There’s such tremendous pressure to know, sometimes, to always be certain about our identity, that the answer is permanent, that to change it is to admit we were faking it on some level.

If this sounds like you: you, and I, we’re not wrong. We were not living lies, we are not fakes. Our lives are not over, even if certain assumptions or expectations change. We are still ourselves, even if our understanding of who that is was different five years ago, or will be different five years from now, or even if we don’t know who we are just yet. Sexual fludity can come about for so many reasons — trauma, change of circumstance, growing older — or maybe it’s inherent in us that there’s nothing really inherent about us at all. We’re still ourselves underneath.

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Say it with me: This is the year to truly stop giving any fucks. This is the year to burn the patriarchy down. This is the year to stand our ground, teach those around us who are willing to learn (when we have the energy to teach), and win some fucking midterm elections. This is the year to channel Betty Cooper and Tonya Harding and learn how to fix your own damn car. And this is the year to do it with makeup or without, with a hairbrush or not, and with absolutely zero fucks to give if anyone has a problem with it.
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glitterfeyrac

fashion looks that make all gay ppl nut:

  • high waisted + crop top concept where that bit of skin above the belly but below the chest shows? u know that Rib Flab? m fuckign gay
  • in a similar vein u know the mom jeans over fishnets look really does get me pregnant every damn time
  • backwards baseball cap with the curls peaking out
  • longe sweater over short skirt thanks
  • hawaiian shirts worn in any way
  • berets over short hair? mmmmm delicious
  • that soft 80s sweater and mom jeans with the black belt fashion INVENTION that looks like something dj tanner in full house would wear? mood
  • Baggy Sweater With The Sleeves Pushed To The Elbow a la robert sean leonard in this video
  • the ‘im wearing my significant other’s jacket or hoodie and it is significantly Too Large’ statement
  • turtlenecks under baseball shirts U Know What I Mean
  • GOLFING OUTFITS u know u had a thing for chad danforth in his golfing outfit don’t lie to my face
  • bowtie + suspenders combo we all know we’ve all talked about it we act like it’s in the past but i know… i know the truth im onto all of u
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  • mesh under short sleeved shirts
  • all black outfits with just a pop of colour
  • baggy graphic t’s from the 80’s and 90’s that have weird art proportions and colours tucked into cuffed mom jeans with a thin black belt and docs
  • tight skinny jeans, fitted tee, oversized coat
  • vests. just like,, all vests are gay
  • tie dye shirts, light wash jeans, and a jean jacket
  • let’s just face it, combat boots have always been gay
  • a suit with a floral tie
  • i could go on forever,, clothes make me so gay
glitterfeyrac

  • okay speaking of cuffed jeans the cuffed jeans and tall novelty socks underneath look
  • also cuffed trousers + no socks + fancy shoes (in the style of chris pine, a fashion icon, before us)
  • double denim in the form of jean jacket + pants
  • WHITE OVERALLS over literally anything
  • bomber jacket and bralette, no shirt
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Please do not forget the classic flannel tied around your hips. A look. A mood. A gay thing.

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