Well guess what — not having sex IS a normal thing! I have the great pleasure today of telling you that you’re normal.
The experience of moving through the world as a woman is fraught; and moving through the world as a queer woman, specifically, is a constant battle that daily includes fighting against the stigmas that have been sewn into the fabric of society by pop culture. I am so exhausted from explaining over and over again the enormous responsibility of putting queer stories into the world. And I remain almost constantly bamboozled by the fact that writers: a) continue to use the same hackneyed tropes when there are infinite other story possibilities available to them, and/or b) are convinced the way they’ll use the trope will be different and singular and acceptable.
It won’t be. And it won’t be. And it won’t be.
Autostraddle’s senior editors are answering more of your Priority Inbox questions in another episode of A+ Inbox LIVE! This week’s topics include sourdough starters, liking your own comments, and emailing exes after breakups! Also? Puppies barking.
A+ Inbox LIVE! #2: Did You Get to Make Jam?
Gender identity, for me, was never about my actions or roles but purely in terms of how I saw myself, how the map of my mind and body had been drawn up; I see myself as a woman not because of what I played with as a child or the clothes I wear or any other such things that have no relation to gender identity, but rather simply because the switch in my mind had been flipped to “woman,” and I felt confused and frustrated by my body, by the name of my birth, by everything. I understood the pain of suppressing who you are for so long, as I waited over twenty years to finally let myself begin to bloom, as me.
29. do dogs get bored
30. worried my dog thinks i’m boring
31. dog won’t watch tv
Being a sexually satisfied single sub is not only fun to say, but also hard work. But it’s also vitally important work. And when you do the work, the sex can be oh so good.
It was fourteen excruciating years ago that we first watched 25 women parade themselves in front of one unremarkable man for the possibility of a live proposal for 10 beautiful, drama-filled episodes. The Bachelor seemed destined for failure from the beginning. The premise was too obnoxious, even by American standards. But it has since become a super force, hypnotizing viewers via 90-minute-long pieces of art, and its unlikely rise in popularity and influence has a lot to do with its creators: The Illuminati.
