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“However, I used to date men. A lot of men, actually. I slept with a lot of guys, too, and felt genuine attraction towards them and, often, real romantic love. I’ve also had some borderline traumatic experiences with men and I know that has contributed to how I feel about men now. (But I’ve also had traumatic experiences with women that didn’t impact how I feel about women! WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, PENELOPE??!! WAS I A REPRESSED LESBIAN ALL THIS TIME?) I also had some serious self-esteem issues that tempt me to write off that whole heterosexual phase as a result of my insecurity and desire to prove my self-worth through being desired by men. WHO KNOWS? At this point, I cannot be myself and also be with a man. Is that a choice I’ve made after living the life I’ve lived? Or is it a reflection of an innate absolute biological preference of women over men? I’ll never know, I guess, but I think that’s fine.”

This is what Riese on Autostraddle had to say in regards to those of us trying to find the right label. I identify with this so much, it hurts. I’m so glad that these words exist– she put it so well. 

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FUSION: “In lesbian love relationships, an intense intimacy between the two partners that causes them to be over-involved in each other. The result is that the differences between the two seem to be lessened, and each partner’s ability to maintain and independent identity is weakened. Often blamed for lesbian bed death, or loss of sexual desire. Also called merging.”

Autostraddle.com “21 More Lesbian Slang Terms You’ve Probably Never Heard Before”


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The Lesbian Sex Survey — open to all female-identified folks who have sex with other female-identified folks — garnered 8,566 complete responses (and another 7,000 incompletes), of which 89% came from people between the ages of 18 and 36.  In addition to asking about the sex you have with other humans, we had quite a few questions about the sex you have with yourself. Let’s get into it.

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gaywrites: “ There were more than 120 queer female characters on television in 2014, and Autostraddle’s Heather Hogan has compiled the stats on every single one. Some important conclusions: The old TV tropes about queer women are becoming obsolete,...
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There were more than 120 queer female characters on television in 2014, and Autostraddle’s Heather Hogan has compiled the stats on every single one. Some important conclusions: The old TV tropes about queer women are becoming obsolete, trans women are more represented than ever, we’re shifting away from clear-cut labels, and there are more grey areas in how queer women contribute to the actual storylines of shows. Read the fine print supplementing Heather’s amazing infographic over at Autostraddle. 

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If you are someone whose identity has ever been even sort of aligned with “lesbian,” chances are you’ve heard the U-Haul joke so many times the white and orange trucks themselves seem a little heavy handed. But at the center of the joke is a truth: queers move through time differently than straight people.

Queer theorists talk a lot about time. Or rather, queer theorists talk a lot about “temporality,” which I understand as a pretentious way to say time. My favorite description of queer time comes from the theorist Jack Halberstam who wrote “queer time for me is the dark nightclub, the perverse turn away from the narrative coherence of adolescence– early adulthood –marriage – reproduction – child rearing– retirement–death ”


I’ve been thinking recently that queer time for me is a self-declared snow day. A chance to stay in bed and explore ourselves unhindered by the outside world. A chance to exist, to play — free from the hetero pillars of career, marriage, and lineage. A break from the ticking clock of larger society’s notions of progression.

The Pace of Queer Time | Lila for Autostraddle 
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As a kid my mother drew flowers and mermaids for me, and by tracing them I learned how to draw. When my grandmother was alive, she had a special relationship with literature as she learned to read and write later in life. I believe these women would’ve been artists, if their circumstances were different. If they were born in a different time, or a different place. I feel the responsibility of redemption, and I’m allowing it to inspire and guide me.
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A society where trans girls are human means one that allows us access to gender appropriate facilities, like women’s shelters or, yes, public restrooms. One that does not deny us health care or, that when we can access it, puts up so many absurd and often insurmountable barriers. One where each of us is granted enough agency to actually know ourselves and our genders and have others treat us like the humans we are.

A world where trans girls can grow up to find love without the threat of violence. Where the girls with beards, man-hands, barrel chests, and so on can be seen as the beautiful and real women that we are. Where talking about sexual desire and fetishism of trans women doesn’t result in death threats and harassment. A world where not only do parents love their trans kids but where cis adults aren’t viscerally disgusted by the notion of dating a trans woman.

This is the world I want to live in. This is a world where a young girl like Leelah, struggling with abusive parents, might find enough hope to stay alive until she can get away.

And it is a world that, at the very least, starts with listening to trans women when we talk about our lives, experiences, and selves while we are still alive. But also one where people afford us dignity when we die.

Listening to the Living and the Dead: Ruminations on #justiceforLeelahAlcorn - 

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