Learning to please myself sexually has been the best journey I’ve taken as a sub, and the most freeing. Pleasing myself reminds me over and over that I don’t need a top to be a fulfilled submissive. When I need to I can be my own top, and still be my submissive self. A large part of my submission to other people is focusing on their pleasure and giving them control of mine, and sometimes I forget that I’m really good at doing that for myself! Being single and not having partnered sex as often as I want has reminded me that I am great at sex on my own, that I can please myself and fulfill my own needs.
A lot of people message us to say they re-read our comics in an effort to cheer themselves up, so we want the whole book to be something that can be uplifting, but is also the honest and raw truth about the life we share in the comic. Being uplifting isn’t always about a punchline, I think being relatable and open to people who might otherwise not see themselves in a book can be uplifting too. Plus, lots of adorable cat pictures, just sayin’.
Forming new habits isn’t easy, especially when your entire profession runs on a highly specialized vocabulary — but you know what else isn’t easy? Listening to how “abnormal” my body is.
Remember that a university, an institution that’s supposed to protect and educate its students, to teach them how the world works, decided to do this by pepper spraying them directly in the face. And later, also instructively, by trying to pretend it didn’t happen.