feel ‘same’ that on skype
lindsay lohan’s my avi
with a lazy eye
I started the 31st week of my pregnancy crying over the kitchen sink as I crammed my gestational diabetes breakfast into my mouth. It wasn’t the pregnancy hormones this time. It was the overwhelming grief and the sudden realization of what it means to be a parent.
When we see stories about us by cis, straight people, we usually see stories where we end up beaten, kicked out of our homes, insulted and murdered. But we don’t need to look to fiction for that; we get so much more than enough of that in our real lives and in our communities and in our families. I live for happy stories about queer people by queer people. That is my favorite thing in the world.
We started to turn the top/bottom dynamics in our sex life into 24/7 dominance/submission. It was highly negotiated, mutually consensual, and extremely hot.
Sinclair Sexsmith, View From The Top: Polka Dots, Packing, and Protocol
- Stef: so erin
- on what date do you tell someone you’re a night walker
- like do you think “i love you” should come first or
- Erin: 3rd date (16th photo shoot)
- and for you
- Stef: i like to kick off the first date with it, right before i tell them we can feed off each other for eternity
- i don’t usually get a lot of second dates though
This attack has inspired us all to discuss the importance of safe spaces, as if such a thing has ever existed, or could ever exist. No space is ever truly safe in every sense of the word, even the ones we create ourselves, even the ones comprised entirely of people “like us.” The most we can ask for, really, is Space, period. But we do need Space, and we do need Community, and we must demand and treasure it. We should be intentionally cultivating spaces of understanding until every queer and trans person can access them.
But we can’t do it alone, we need help from the institutions that govern us, too.
On the news and in social media, we hear from thousands of LGBT folks who are at vigils and rallies and clubs because they didn’t want to be alone, because they need their people close. Even social media itself and comment threads like the one we started yesterday have become intense and necessary virtual spaces to feel connected to each other and to an insurmountable loss.
LGBTQ folks and QTPOC specifically need community now more than ever, but despite gaining so much legally and culturally over the past decade, it often seems to be getting harder, not easier, for so many to access it.
LGBTQ People Can’t Have Safe Spaces But We Still Need Community | Riese Bernard for Autostraddle
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