my gay cousin is dying of aids. the family pretends it’s not aids because if they accept that then they’ll have to accept that he’s gay. i don’t know how to reach out to him, and i’m really fucking sad about it. i feel that as a fellow gay i failed him
are you ‘out’? if you’re not 'out’ then it doesn’t matter, this man knows from secrets. so don’t let that get in the way.
sit down beside him and maybe put your hand on his leg, or something, and ask him how he’s doing “with everything.”
your facial expression should say 'i understand how you feel and i know how much this hurts and i think you deserve love and honesty’ even if it’s not true. just keep giving him that facial expression until it’s true, no matter how many minutes/years it takes
