What if this actually is the way that we live, except less fancy? Welcome to part one of two of “The Real L Word: Looking Back”!
This excerpt announces new efforts from strange people to repeal Prop 8 for everyone except like 4 people, make homosexuality illegal in Montana, and vote in favor of DADT.
Lady Gaga had a DADT rally today. She did research and wrote a speech and on a scale of one to bajillion, it was pretty f*cking awesome. I feel like she’s going to be remembered for this. Imagine all…
you know when you take adderall/ritalin and for four hours + you are focussssed and productive, then you get the ‘come down’ feeling where you just want to cry and you feel alone and helpless? what is a good way of making the come down less of a bitch?
i do not actually know anything about that feeling HOWEVER
i have an intern for that. i have outsourced this question to internicane kc danger and her answer is: “smoke weed. eat a sandwich. take a nap. also be aware that it’s completely mental, and therefore mentally conquerable.”
so there you go.
Participate in a groundbreaking survey, talk about scissoring, think about intimacy, ponder porn, read a new zine, attend a film festival, admire young women kissing each other and have a sandwich….
riese i’ve been bulimic for six years now… i’ve seen multiple people about it without any success. it always comes back. it makes me feel safe and okay. i am scared i will be this way forever.
at this rate i’m concerned about the potential length of your ‘forever’
i know ~3-4 people personally who have gotten better from eating disorders of several years, you will do that too!
do people ever get TOTALLY 100% better, like in books? i don’t know. marya hornbacher did near the end, i think.
maybe they don’t. cold turkey appeals because it can become its own kind of addiction but it’s so obsessed with relapse as some kind of massive failure. relapse today, get back on track tomorrow. you’ve fallen down a floor but you’re still nowhere near the abyss. crawl up. one day you’ll be on the ground i think. that would be ideal.
at some point you’re going to be forced to get better. the sooner that is, the better shape your teeth will be in on the other side.
also, i’m not a medical professional and am, therefore, totally unqualified to give you advice. you should keep seeing those until you see the right one. just keep on. secrets are what addiction calls foreplay, so you need someone to tell the truth to. look into harm reduction. get a good psychiatrist, it’s worth it. it’s your life!
It kills me you are unhappy & are the sacrifical lesbian lamb. But you do so much for me and so many others with your work and visibility. But me, and I’m sure I speak for others, won’t stop visiting autostraddle if you take a few hours a day for yourself
good idea
when i get to san francisco, i’m going to take six days off to have adventures. the rest of the team will run the site in my absence. they should learn how to do so relatively asap.
What’s the best way to respond to someone constantly saying ‘you look like a boy’? And the consequent follow up, 'do you want to be a boy?’
1. 'neat!’ or 'thanks’ or 'you look like an asshole’ or 'what do you want me to do with that statement, can you just tell me what you want me to feel.’
2. 'gender is performative. there is no prediscursive reality, there is no prior truth. the ways that we perform gender create the illusion of an interior and organizing gender core, an illusion discursively maintained for the purposes of the regulation of sexuality within the obligatory frame of reproductive heterosexuality.’
I’m bisexual, equally 50/50, but i do enjoy that guys find it a turn on and sometimes talk about it to get a guy’s interest. I wouldn’t make out for a guy’s attention or anything, but I am scared I am a ‘bad’ bisexual and letting the team down. thoughts?
yes you are a bad bisexual and you are letting the team down. in related news, several years back, two guys paid my me and my then-best-friend $800 to ‘have sex’ in front of them so really, who am i to counsel you on such matters. that being said, our mix tape for the evening included 'going down’ and 'letter to a john’ by ani difranco.
