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I totally 100% know I’m a lesbian and accepting that has led to me questioning everything and turning my life upside down. But I have an irrational fear that I’ll wake up straight one day and my world will fall apart again. Am I crazy?

no, you are not crazy.
you will change. as a person who runs a life and makes the plans - you will change. it will always be this way.
i think people are conditioned to expect that important decisions will be made between the ages (roughly) of 18-27 and then we will be ‘done’ and guess what little turtle dove, that’s just not true.
your life will turn upside down a few more times. it probably won’t be because you’re suddenly straight, but so what if it is?
who are you now? who do you want to be?
worry about that.
worry about the things you can control now.

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I want to make a mix tape for my best friend whom I’ve been madly in love with for eight years. I need some suggestions on what to put on it. Help?

NOOOO. stop do not do this STOP. NO. TERRIBLE IDEA.
i’m assuming she’s straight? and that this mix tape will be your way of professing your love to her via cleverly chosen songs with symbolic lyrical references and you’ll even put them in the perfect order and make original, relevant cover art? NO DO NOT DO THIS.
may i share a story with you, anonymous formspring questioner? may i? ok, ahem:
once upon a time, several years before *the great self-realization of ‘06*, i was in love with my best friend who was a straight girl, bless her heart. one night we had been drinking and decided to take off our shirts and um, make out? yes, so after this i was overwhelmed with feelings i didn’t understand and the need to communicate something to her - i didn’t even know what (i used to be very stupid, formspring questioner) - i just knew i needed to say SOMETHING.
so i made her a mix cd with all of the songs that made me think of her. gems like - brace yourself - “She’s So High” by Tal Bachman, “Kiss Me” by Sixpence None the Richer, “All You Wanted” by Michelle Branch DO YOU SEE WHERE I’M GOING WITH THIS.
thus began the serious downward spiral of our friendship because even though i didn’t know what the fuck i was trying to say, she certainly did, and it was not a thing she wanted.
in closing, i suggest you make her a mix tape of your favorite songs that have nothing to do with her or how much you want to cuddle her. if you want to profess your love, maybe do so with your face and your own words. additionally, EIGHT YEARS WOW.

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