Oh also my fancy Droid phone finally sputtered out completely last week and has been basically totally inoperable with the exception of sending my mother the same text message multiple times a day/in the middle of the night, which is freaking her out/making her think I am haunted. I had to pay out of pocket for a replacement phone, which is a fucking Blackberry of all things, and which I cannot activate even after like an hour on the Verizon site, which can I just say, why do they even have a site. It would be just as useful to have a blank page and they would save a lot on the webmaster’s salary.
im nt out about my sexuality& i have a thing for agirl that isnt gay bt gives mxd signls.we r going out of town2 party so its me her & another friend and turns out we hav 2 share a bed & its so hard to hide my feelings &urges not to make a move= help!
omg the worst. worst. you have to turn the other way so you don’t spontaneously start spooning her. i mean, otherwise you’ll just lay there looking at her stupid fucking shiny hair and thinking about how easy it would be to fall asleep with your nose in it BUT YOU CAN’T because she’s probably not gay and would be like wtf why is your nose in my hair and then you’d have to lie and say that you thought you smelled herbal essences and you just wanted to be sure like, obvs, and then she’ll think you’re fucking crazy.
but srsly if i ever smell herbal essences i have to go sniff it closer. that shit is magical.
but i like the girl in #1 best
After I finish uni in Bristol early next year I was thinking of going on my own to live/work abroad. Spending 4 months in America & 12 in Canada. The visa applications start tomorrow. Do you think I should do it, or alternatively, go back home to London?
IS THERE STILL TIME FOR YOU TO DO THIS because i think you should do this, yes.
i thought i answered this already.
sometimes i think i answer these questions in my dreams and then forget that it was just a dream. i answer emails in my dreams, too. that’s caused some serious problems in the past. if me not answering this has caused you to not apply for a visa i’ll probably cry so please don’t tell me. feel free to lie. sometimes i like being lied to. jesus christ 12 months in canada is a long time!
i’m drinking at 1:16 p.m. so i can get up the courage to go to class. i don’t think life is supposed to be like this.
every time i scroll past this question i think ‘i have the answer’ and then i realize i can’t hug a computer or pet its hair and then i keep on scrolling because not being able to do that makes me feel like i can’t do anything. hang in there. it gets better. seriously my mom used to make us visualize good parking spots and it always worked.
I started at the start and was working my way through This Girl Called Automatic Win, but I lost my place. I’ll find it again. Do you miss it? When it was only the blog?
[just blog = april 2006–>march 2009]
i miss the girls i wrote it for
i wrote for one girl at a time
it says it’s a blog but it’s
really just stories for one girl
i miss the girl who wrote it
she still writes there sometimes
when she has a minute
and a thing she can say
and a girl to write it for
not a new girl
just the one i had before
maybe 2 weeks ago
maybe 2 years ago
i’ve lost track of time
i need her back
have you or anyone you know had any cosmetic surgery? not reconstructive but ‘vanity’ surgery? I know that having this procedure will make me a million times more confident, but i’m scared of being judged by fellow feminists/lesbians. would u judge me?
yeah i know a lot of actors and actresses who have, though nobody i’ve been that close to. I had an ex-boyfriend who got a nose job for some inane reason and a friend in college who got breast implants. she let me touch them.
i also know three girls who all have stories of how once upon a time they wanted a nose job but then decided not to get one and are so happy that they didn’t, and they like their actual noses now.
honestly i don’t know if i have an opinion on it one way or the other. I think my only real opposition to cosmetic surgery is that it further enhances the gulf between rich or poor, as rich people can afford to look like whatever they want to, which has its advantages in the workplace and ‘mating’ activities, therefore perpetuating current class divides. i feel like there’s a backlash from it now mostly about how it doesn’t really look that good, the way these famous people do it. i understand the 'to succeed in the master’s house you must use the master’s tools’ argument, or the fact that you’re just fixing a thing that doesn’t really matter to you but greatly impacts others perception of you in a way you can’t control. I mean, sure, cosmetic surgery absolutely perpetuates the power of the patriarchal paradigm and its hegemonic beauty standard by ascribing a great deal of attention and resources towards your physical appearance.
But also, it’s you. Your body.
For me, I like knowing that I stuck it out with this body and this face and this chin. Like, we’re in this together you know? I feel like getting a new body part would’ve been altering an aspect of my invented experience of the world. If I’d been able to afford cosmetic surgery when i was 20 and hated myself, would i have done it? I’m not sure. But I wouldn’t now. It’s like a permanent subscription to a certain idea that I’m not fond of.
But seriously – you shouldn’t listen to people who judge people. Nobody has a right to judge you based on what you do with your own body, including the feminist lesbians.
Think about it until you are going to explode or not explode. If you explode, go get what you want. If you don’t, don’t.
How do you keep a friendship with an ex? I can’t figure it out.
you can be friends with your ex as soon as you’ve completely made peace with the idea that she is an ex, and will be an ex and nothing more than an ex, now and forevermore. and vice versa.
you can try to be friends before that happens, but them’s tricky waters
i’m a completely broke student. how can I help autostraddle?
tell everyone you know to read it especially the rich kids who spend between $800 and $1200 a year on travel and/or home stereo equipment