Chord Overstreet & Lea Michele
how did you join the AS team? like the story and all that :)
So far I’ve had 5 - 6 questions about this, so this one is for all of you.
When Riese launched Autostraddle I asked her if she needed another writer. She said “yes”. That’s all there really is to it, the joining process took 7 seconds.
But I feel like this is a bigger question about how I know everyone when I live on the other side of the world?
In 2007 Riese and I met via the internet. First we were blog friends, then we became email friends and work friends. We met in person when I flew to the US on my then-annual pilgrimage to SxSW, I stayed with Riese in Nyc and then she came with me to Austin. That month I also met Alex & Stef & Natalie & Carlytron. You can find 100,000+ words about the experience on Riese’s blog: http://marielynbernard.blogspot.com/2008/03/friday-top-ten-so-she-comes-from-land.html
When I look at her in the eyes, I lose the ability to maintain an actual conversation. When I don’t look at her in the eyes, I can’t see her perfect eyes. What do I do?
you are fucked my friend.
i suggest xanax and sunglasses. in fact, i recommend this to everyone. everyone reading this: xanax and sunglasses.
problems solved.
What’s your safe word? Subquestion: Is there a deal breaker on safe words?
i don’t have a safe word. i think my safe word is “ow! no. ow.”
hey, i get super shy when i talk to other gay girls, cuz for all my life ive had straight friends, or gay guy friends. i used to avoid gay girls like the plague when i was still scared and in the closet; now i want to have lesbian friends but im shy :-/
http://www.autostraddle.com/how-to-overcome-shyness-72328
i feel like you are not reading my website.
Jess talks to Chely Wright about the media firestorm surrounding her coming out last May, reaction of the country music world, her upcoming performance at The Dinah, politics, working with Linda…
hi ok so I’m bi and i got married this summer to a dude who rocks my socksbut i’m still bi (obvs) and having female queer friends is really important to me. I’m moving to a new city next week: when/how do i explain all this w/o overwhelming right away?
why do you feel you need queer lady friends as opposed to straight lady friends or queer/straight boy friends? the answer to that question is your explanation. And I guess when you explain it depends on how you are meeting new people? but don’t hide anything. it makes you seem defensive. be confident about asserting who you are and what you need, and if your intentions are honest that will come through. don’t open the door for a challenger to enter – if they want to challenge you, they have to find their way into that door themselves. you follow?
I think the reason queer lady friends are skeptical of a bi-but-married-to-a-man friend is that it’s never made clear to them WHY a bi/het-married girl needs queer girl friends specifically, so they jump to conclusions and make assumptions: that you’re secretly really lesbian and just looking to slowly break your husband’s heart, that you want them to fall for you even though you would never leave your husband, that you want to bring them home to your husband, or that you want to make out with them behind your husband’s back.
but from how this is phrased i’m gonna assume that you want queer lady friends b/c either: 1)you and your husband are non-monogamous and you are looking for another partner of some kind or (and this is what i feel like you’re asking based on this and the 2nd & 3rd formspring statements you sent me) 2) that you just identify with queer culture, get along better with queer girls and for whatever reason just have a more “queer sensibility” and those are the people you want to be friends with. also growing up queer and dating girls at some point means you probably have a lot more in common with other queers than with straight girls, you know? your life experiences are similar regardless of your current partner’s gender. so if that’s how you feel (i don’t wanna put words in your mouth) then that’s your explanation and it makes sense and shouldn’t feel overwhelming to others.
there’s lots of women like that, i think – i mean even just look at people like Susie Bright, Ani DiFranco, Margaret Cho – who although they are partnered with men at this time, are still more rooted in the queer community and i feel like have the same queer friends they did when they were dating members of the same sex. this is one of the things i like best about the word ‘queer’ – it doesn’t have to be about the “gender” of the person you’re fucking at this time (“The sexual encounter is queer because both partners are queer and the genders of the participants are less relevant” - Jack Halberstam), it’s more of an overall outsider/alt perspective and an openness towards same-sex relationships regardless of if you have been or ever will be in one. unfortunately, legally, we are judged by if we are “gay” or “lesbian” – because our sexuality w/r/t marriage is entirely reliant on who we are fucking at the time.
Margaret Cho: “I identify as queer, my politics are queer, but then I’ve also maintained many relationships with men too, so I think my own fluidity within my own sexuality has always been very present. So I didn’t feel [backlash when i got married to a man].”
show respect for the fact that depending on where you live, your queer partnered friends do experience legal and everyday prejudice that you don’t have to deal with. i think lots of times we bisexuals get really defensive and annoyed at all the biphobia out there and let that resentment get in the way of acknowledging the fact that it is easier for you to be partnered with a man at this time though that factor has nothing to do with why you are with a man. it is what it is. understand your accidental privilege, so to speak. and if you’ve been queer-partnered in the past, you know this too. i think everyone respects that.
be yourself, be honest and open with yourself and your friends – and anyone who’s worth a dime will be your friend.
in conclusion i would say ask yourself WWKPD – “What Would Kit Porter Do?”
that was about black swan (not the asker)
hi ok i got like 15 of these i want everyone to know it’s okay, i get it now and thank you to all of you. i would like to say probs neither, but def mila kunis, even though she was in that 70s show, which I HATED almost as much as I hated Love Actually
i just need to tell someone that the girl i’ve been in love with for over two years gave me some amazing lezzy sex the other day. is it wrong to want to brag about this? i have no one to brag to :(
that’s awesome
the point of life is dreams-come-true
i want to move to phx to live w/my best friends. fam/work/etc here all say it’s irresponsible bc i don’t have a solid plan. tonight my fortune cookie said “do not be afraid to take that big step” i mean the universe is basically telling me to go right?
laneia lives there so basically that’s the universe saying GO NOW GO
Do you know your myers-briggs personality type?
I had to google it, but apparently I’m a ESTP
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ESTP
I’d say that description is super fucking accurate, ftr.
Do the calendars come in plain packaging?
Yes, they do. I throw them in a white envelope, I handwrite your address because I don’t have a printer. Although the return address is a sticker that I typically place on there, which says “Autostraddle.com” and then the return address.
If you’d like, tell me to leave off that return address sticker and I will. Therefore you’d get: a completely anonymous package.