This is a part from Pam Houston’s “"The Moon is a Woman’s First Husband.”
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“In one of the dialogues,” I said, “Phaedrus asks Socrates whether it’s better to spend your life with someone who you’re compatible with, like a friend, or someone who you’re crazy for, someone who’ll make your life a living hell.”
“And what does Socrates say?” Henry said.
“He says you should be with someone you can get along with, and he spends thirty pages proving it … logically … like a theorem.” I watched the shadow of relief cross the faces of both men.
“Then,” I said, “he changes his mind.”
“And says you should be with the person who makes your life a living hell,” Henry said.
“What he says,” I said, “is that when we fall full tilt in love with somebody, it’s because our soul recognizes another soul that it was mingled with on some previous plane.”
“Socrates says full tilt?” Carter said.
“He says, but what is man’s logical reasoning, compared to the power of divine madness?”
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I know that doesn’t answer your question
but that’s all i got
well
I have a theory about sexual chemistry ultimately being the most important aspect of relationship longevity, but i can’t imagine out-of-this-fucking-world sexual chemistry without love or the potential for love, even if that potential is never realized. maybe i’m old-fashioned, or else wrong.
That’s all I got
