Speaking of Autostraddle…
back row (L to R): Design Director Alex, Executive Editor Laneia, Editor-in-Chief Riese, Stylist Sara Medd, Music Editor Crystal, Senior Editor Rachel, Managing Editor Sarah
front row: Sarah Croce (Miss April), Julia (Miss February)
Okay so I’m the last person who should be giving advice about work-related relationships. or life. so keep that in mind.
Whenever I’ve pulled away from someone, for whatever reason, I’ve always told that person what’s up. It’s usually super awk, but I’d rather embarrass myself than let someone who is kind and wonderful start feeling like they’re no longer worthy of my friendship. That feeling fucking sucks. So that’s what I’d do, that’s all I can tell you.
But I feel like the fact that you’re aware of potential asshole behavior is an indication that you’re probably not really acting like one.
well, i have the inside scoop on this
and i can tell you that the girl who wrote the blog
was WAY more self-conscious than this girl
was she more ‘natural’?
i don’t know what that means.
it’s possible. maybe even likely
she was also, however, usually very sad
and wrote perhaps authentically from a position
of hopelessness and insecurity
and
for three years she was living in one person or another’s
imaginary psychotic world
which can be an alienating experience, ultimately
and within that tiny world
the internet was literally a window
a small window, but enough
she was fucked
in that nihilism she kept everybody’s secrets
and shared their permitted truths
and often was punished for her honesty
whenever it was honesty
and
the girl with the blog missed
the girl from the first 26 or so years of her life
that girl didn’t fold into people
or wait for anyone else to push her future forward
that girl that actively pursued dreams,
like a stupid kid.
she missed that stupid kid
that stupid kid was authentic, and honest too.
had less to hide.
all of these girls, which are secretly all just mememememememe
LOVE YOU
people always ask me – isn’t it weird
to have it all “out there”?
here’s the secret:
if you never actually go “out there”
it never gets weird
oh here’s a fun fact that you may not be aware of: sometimes we answer questions w/out posting them to tumblr, so they only show up on our formspring profiles. and our formspring profiles are just our answers and no one else’s.
also i think you’re amazing too your hair looked really good today.
feel like straddling riese is maybe an eternal thing with no beginning and no end. infinitestraddle.
there’s only like .5% hate here. i get a good amount of love.
also i really like you guys.
We moved to different cities, which I think made it “easier”. Also we both agreed that we didn’t want to do a long distance thing, which I think made it peaceful.
We can be “best buds” now because there is distance and distance is so very necessary for any break-up. But also because we do the website and that comes before most things.
And also also because we’re awesome.
I don’t really know what else to say besides that if you love someone, you will want them to be happy.
The AP Stylebook dictates that journalists should always use a trans person’s self-identified pronoun when reporting on them; maybe it should also state that if your story collapses without a central pillar of transphobia, then it shouldn’t be written at all.
I don’t really know how to answer this, other than to tell you if she’s your best friend then I feel like her mind will be blown regardless of how you deliver the song, you know.
I asked a girl who knows things about singing and performing and she answered “eye contact”. so. good luck.
