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Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna

just wondering. why do you sometimes refer to yourself as a lesbian if you like men? i am 100% behind the YOU DO YOU philosophy, but i’m curious as to how you see yourself. also you’re awesome, thanks times a blllion for autostraddle.

i refer to myself as lesbian, bisexual, “a bisexual”, queer, gay, homosexual, homogay, trashwhore, homo, gaymo… i know this sounds like a cop-out, but honestly i like the way certain words fit into sentences, i pick the best noun for the quality of the sentence or the best punchline, not b/c that’s how i identify that day.

i’m pretty sure i’ll never be with a man again, but my relationships with men weren’t a lie or a compromise. i was genuinely into those boys. so that to me is bisexual. but also, everyone keeps arguing about words all the time so i feel like, if nobody else can reach a consensus on what a certain word means – then i can make it whatever i want it to be, too. if you want a label, then that’s you doing you, you know? i’ve got nothing against it, generally, this is just me.

because i don’t attach myself to a label, i am fully 100% open to describing who i am to whomever asks, i’ve got nothing to hide. when asked directly, i guess i use bisexual or queer, maybe. but in conversation or writing, anything’s game.

language is fluid and ever-evolving. i understand that many people need to know who you’re sexually attracted to for very practical reasons, and that evolves too, over a lifetime or between people or whatever.

i actually think that this is the first time i’ve really even thought about it, while answering this question. what a voyage of self-discovery.

In conclusion: language is fluid, whether you’re gay or you’re straight or you’re bisexual, you just go with the flow.

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It’s OK that I’ve not yet had sex with anyone, right? I feel all kinds of feelings about it, and mostly it’s OK and I don’t mind and hey, it’ll happen sometime, but sometimes it feels like the rest of the world is in on this thing I’m not a part of and th

yes! of course it’s ok.
you are not the only one.
just be sure to masturbate a lot
so that whenever you’re ready,
you’re ready.

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If you were a 16 year old girl (who’s mom still cleans her room upon occasion) who wanted to purchase a vibrator and then hide it from her mother, what would you do and how would you hide it?

i would get myself a visa gift card from like wal-mart or something. then i would go to babeland.com and place an order for the quietest, most inconspicuous vibrator i could find.
i would probably hide it in a pouch in a box marked “BOOKS & CDs” under some books and cds.

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My girlfriend and I just recently broke up, we were together for a long time. I call her the love of my life, the chemistry we have is the most amazing. I feel like that’s because we are meant to be. She doesnt feel that way. How can I convince her?

if she doesn’t feel the same way
then it isn’t mean to be

the person you’re meant to be with
will love and cherish and worship and desire
YOU
above all else.

“If you love something, set it free
if it comes back its yours.
if not, it was never meant to be.”

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do you answer every formspring quesstion asked? and how long does it take for a response.

i did a big formspring housecleaning like 2 weeks ago but right now i still have 812 unanswered questions. i don’t really know how to fix this problem. your question may be answered anywhere between “never” and “within 5 minutes.” sometimes months, sometimes weeks, sometimes days.

for example, you asked me this 6 days ago

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