Kristy, I couldn’t have said it any better myself, so I’m using your submission word-for-word. Great point about the other bands, how must they feel waking up this morning knowing they lost to that band.
I have been with my girlfriend for two years and I love her more every day. We are seniors in high school and are both going abroad to study in the fall. Different countries, four years. Is it better to take the heartbreak now or try to make it work?
i don’t know. i’m sorry. letting someone go doesn’t have to mean not loving them. that’s all i’ve got.
Ten elements of last nights Grammy Awards Ceremony. A picture-heavy post, suitable for readers of all levels.
Hi I know you don’t do video, but this made me think of you: Saul Williams starts reading Howl at 3:35 http://bit.ly/dbGx0
you are a beautiful human being, thank you for this
I’ve just turned 17 and I really want to move to Prague or to Japan even though i don’t know anyone there, but my family and friends think i’m being crazy, they think i should wait until i’m 21. should i?
When I was 15 years old I moved to Hong Kong with nothing but a few hundred dollars and a backpack filled with dreams and somehow I survived for an entire year. it was crazy and stupid and at times scary but it was also one of the best things I’ve ever done. So I’m not going to tell you that you’re too young. you’re 17 now but i promise you’re gonna grow up real fast the moment you step off that plane in Tokyo or wherever and realize that no-one’s coming to collect you from the airport.
Your family are going to be concerned whether you’re 17 or 21 or 31, it’s their job. Those concerns are valid though, moving o/seas is a big deal and you’re gonna meet challenges that’d be easier to handle if you were older. So if you don’t want to wait then at least try to anticipate them. have a solid plan. and a back up plan. get travel insurance. register with your embassy. buy a phone. stay in touch always. and for god’s sake don’t do anything illegal, not ever, no matter how petty. do i sound like your parents
Need to hear/read your feelings about Gaga’s born this way
I avoided this question at first because I knew my initial feelings of being underwhelmed would eventually give way… and they have.
I mean it’s a super basic pop song right? The lyrics, the chords… People will say that it’s the same chord progression as Madonna’s “Express Yourself”. To which I say: if you know that, Gaga definitely knows it. She knows what she’s doing. She wrote a simplistic pop song that we could all throw our fists up in the air and sing our lungs out to because we’re gay and fabulous and we deserve a goddamn GAY ANTHEM and we finally have one dammit.
And so I like it. Yes.
How do you feel about resume fonts? Right now mine is in Georgia but I’m thinking about a change. Serif? Sans serif?
Hmm… Georgia is nice but it’s made for web, so I wouldn’t use it if I had other good serif fonts to choose from. But if that’s all you got, it’ll do!
I use a serif font for my body text (FF Scala) and a sans serif for the headings and stuff (Futura). I think it’s a good idea to pick two different fonts to contrast each other.
Here’s a quick screenshot of my resume so you can see sort of what I’m talking about: http://twitpic.com/3zvmk6
A slab serif typeface could be fun to play with too: TheSerif and Lubalin Graph are great…
Sans Serifs: Trade Gothic, Gotham, Futura, Avant Garde…
Serifs: Bodoni, Scala, umm I wish I was on my computer at home cause then I could look through my library and answer this better!
Maybe it’s a scam. Maybe it doesn’t matter. Maybe it’s just a cheap excuse to “show” someone how much you “love” them, when really you’re just guilted into participating because Society says that if you don’t, you’re a bad significant other. Maybe it’s ju
st pushed by Corporations to get you to buy a poorly made, red polyester Teddy Bear for the low, low price of $7.99, and why don’t you throw in a box of Hershey’s chocolates with that, hmm? But maybe— just maybe, it should be a reminder that your person needs some special attention. Some love. And sure, you can express it any other day of the year without having to spend money on things they don’t really want, but do you? If you faithfully work to make your love feel special on days that don’t begin with V, then great. Don’t feel obligated to participate. But if your idea of saying “I love you” is as special as it gets, you should reconsider. Unless you want your person to walk by everyone else who received flowers and candy and cards from their loves, and feel empty. i send my girlfriend a package. she told me she hates valentines day, don’t i know her at all, i don’t think things through, and she could accept it, if i had done something right. i’m broken.
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A: I think she’s probs pissed ‘cause now she looks like an asshole for not getting you anything.
But I do think there’s a violent knee-jerk reaction a person gets when given something they’ve expressed interest in NOT getting. Gratitude is expected, and that can be a hard emotion to summon effectively because it’s so huge and real. But fake gratitude is THE WORST. Needing to summon that targets one of the stupidest, pettiest, most stubborn parts of your gut and so you hate yourself for not being able to suck it up and thank someone for being kind and loving you like a mensch and you also hate the other person for expressly denying your wishes and then expecting gratitude in return.
Now that I’m an adult I appreciate the aesthetic qualities of flowers and the Gesture of Flowers and like getting them, but I used to hate flowers and i told EVERYONE I dated that flowers die and they’re the dumbest present ever. Yet my boyfriend kept getting me flowers. I remember walking out to my car and seeing a rose he’d put in the windshield wiper to apologize for something and just wanting to SMASH IT and SCREAM like HERE’S A GOOD IDEA FOR A GIFT: LISTEN TO ME WHEN I FUCKING TALK! Because I KNOW WHAT I WANT and YOU CAN’T DECIDE WHAT I WANT FOR ME.
I know it’s hard to swallow – you did something that’s ultimately generous and kind and sweet and she’s being an asshole. She doesn’t need to be an asshole and say those terrible things, for one thing – but also, when a girl tells you what she wants, you need to listen and respect it. Otherwise it feels like you’re telling her that you know what she wants better than she does, which can be frustrating.
Even if it seems totally ridiculous – it’s her. It’s who she is. She is a person who, despite allllllll the reasons you just gave me, which are perfectly sensible, doesn’t want Valentine’s Day. It’s clear where you stand, but you can’t force her to agree with you or claim your opinion is the equivocal Truth. If you are going to love her, you have to love that part of her too, even if you don’t understand or relate to it.
Anyhow ask her to mail it back COD so you can eat the candy and shit, and maybe apologize and make her apologize too. You are not broken, this is just a hiccup. Relationships aren’t always easy, even on Valentine’s Day.
Keep AS branded content on the AS site. Put the tumblr question function on AS site. I didn’t mean to come off horridly. I care. Really.
if i could do this i would but i don’t know how websites work
This sounds so lame, but if I could be friends with any of the AS writers it would be you.
that’s so nice! do you live in new york?
It’s been 2 Weeks… Where’s Laneia? :(
the sun’ll come out, tomorrow, so you better hang on ‘til tomorrow, come what may. tomorrow, tomorrow, i love ya, tomorrow, you’re only a day away