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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna

kind of a harsh response to the “break” question…girl shouldn’t have to respond of course, but the other person isnt doing it “wrong” by not being able to control her actions always…breaks suck. & they’re always easier for one party

WOMAN. that was a hyperbolic response. i think the break girl knows that. by ‘wrong’ i meant 'making it harder on yourself.’
yes breaks suck. in fact, i’d even go so far as to say that most things about relationships suck. i honestly have no idea why we keep doing this to ourselves. but we do!
it’s like, even though we know we’ll probably be gutted, we need to know more about this person. we need to see all the ways we’re vulnerable to her and learn how to dance with our eyes closed.
and anyway i would hope that if there was ever a 'break’ in my future, riese or rachel or sarahs 1 and 3 would take a few minutes to remind me when i’m doing it wrong, because i know they love me forever and i’d do the same for them.

i need coffee.

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Please, for real: are these meet ups just for teens and 20 somethings?

YOU GUYS. you guyssss.
i am thirty. i need you to sit for a second and really roll that around in your brainspace.
if a thirty year-old can RUN THE WEBSITE, then a thirty year-old can READ THE WEBSITE and also a thirty year-old can ATTEND THE GATHERINGS.
the same thing goes for whatever age you happen to be. yes, you. you! are you a reader? do you ever read AS and think “hm, yes, i concur, this is an interesting angle, i love when riese makes lists, hahaha kittens, wtf prop 8 / planned parenthood / senate / congress / supreme court / grammys / hairstyles / sex toys / etc”
if so, you are us. we are you.

GOD I LOVE YOU GUYS EVEN THOUGH YOU NEVER LISTEN TO ME.

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re butch pressure girl: It’s kind of ridic to say that you don’t know why lesbians feel pressured to cut their hair off when a post on Autostraddle JUST described having long hair as “passing.”

“having other people make assumptions about your identity” will never be the same as “passing.”


“On the other hand, I want people to see that lesbians can have long hair… On the other foot, I don’t want my hair to be my identity. Does anyone really care about my hair that much? So while I sit here pondering the meaning of my existence, my hair is growing longer. It’s in a ponytail and it’s really cute, if I may say so myself.” – emily, on this post http://www.autostraddle.com/open-thread-hairstyle-identity-crisis-77293/

sometimes i worry you guys don’t actually read us for the articles

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Butch/Femme. What say you? I feel like to be a “good lesbian” I have to get on the Butch train either for myself or partners. I just don’t rly want to. Apparently I’m “such a straight homo”. I feel like this means a lot of lonely nights in my future. :(

you guys. i don’t even know what to do with you. my hair is down to the middle of my back and yesterday i wore a dress from forever21 and lipstick. do you really think i’m going to tell you that you need to be butch to be gay? angelina jolie is not butch at all and she got to fuck jenny shimizu, i feel like that should tell you everything you need to know. you say you ‘don’t rly want to.’ why would you ever do anything you don’t want to because you think an imaginary authority told you to. we all have lonely nights, but it’s not because of our haircuts.

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A girl I’m kind of seeing (we’re not official yet) has invited me to a party on Friday night to meet her friends and stuff, only problem is I dunno what to tell my folks as they don’t even know I’m gay yet and even though I know they won’t care (they’re

very liberal) I keep putting off telling them. Also she would be my first girlfriend if things work out that way. Do I tell them she’s a friend now then if we decide to properly date, tell them she’s my girlfriend? I’m 17 by the way. :)“


I think my parents still don’t know about anything I did in high school. why would you tell them anything? i don’t get it.

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What are your feelings on Canada? Whenever there are Jeopardy Qs about Canada, Americans get them wrong. Are we just known to your country by our ridiculous stereotypes?

I’ll give you one chance to guess the subject they teach us in our history classes in public schools.
Hint: it’s not Canada.

I think I would like to take our American History classes over again, except this time they can be like “This is how our government works… now this is how our government could work BETTER if our country was, for example, Canada” etc…

I’d probably get every question on Jeopardy about Canada wrong.

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hi alex from los angeles. i want very much to live in california and i need an honest answer… do i need a car to live in los angeles? should i learn how to drive. i am 20 so this is embarrassing.

Cars are dumb, but also convenient. Surprisingly, here are people that live here that don’t have cars.

There’s public transportation, but I don’t know much about that though I heard it was useful. I would rather bike around every where, so you can do that. There’s a serious bike culture here.

p.s. The people here SERIOUSLY cannot drive anyway so you won’t be missing out by not being on the road with them.

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Laneia, I’m frustrated and sporadic, and my eyes have that weird sense where they’re wired, and tired. It’s just not a good feeling. Ideas to temporary cure this?

- turn this box off
- put on some slow classical music (or jazz, but nothing w/ words)
- clear a space where you can be flat
- lay face down in that space until your mind goes blank or you get tired of being face down, whichever comes first
- lay face up in that same space, but maybe flip yourself so that your head is where your feet were when you were face down
- think about what you want to be doing right now. just one thing.
- don’t get up until you’ve planned the exact steps you need to take in order to begin doing the one thing you decided that you want to be doing.
- then take those steps and do that thing.

also i like your user icon.

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