(Q cont’d) … understand i need to let her go. SO she would have received it last night, but she has said nothing to me about it at all. we talk every few days (we split on good terms) but like…i feel weird about her ignoring it?
**
A:
I’ve been on both sides of this situation and it’s rough no matter which one you’re on. If your break up was truly amicable then I think you should trust that your ex is doing what she feels is the right thing for the both of you. Maybe she hasn’t responded because she knows that if she does then you’ll get caught in that horrible cycle where you both keep saying lovely things to each other even though you can no longer be together and neither of you will be able to move on. Or maybe you panicked too soon, maybe she hasn’t said anything because she wants to write you back via her own letter rather than talk over the phone. either way, i hope this silence helps with letting her go.
i am not qualified to answer this question
due to a prolific heterosexual history prior to first time ‘sex with a woman’
however i feel like “it gets better” is a thing people say
and also i mean duh
your whole between-the-legs situation is usually interested, by design, in being penetrated (not for everybody, though! but for a lot of people like maybe you), so it’ll make room for that. people and bodies and body parts tend to make room for things that feel really good, sooner or later. and what’s a little blood between friends.
not really. i mean. you could make up some story about how you are sort of with someone or sometimes you want a one-off and you’re just not good with anything past that point or that you have moved to a tropical island to devote yourself to making pineapple bras to sell on etsy, or you could just sort of ignore her until she hates you, which will probably make her feel better than feeling rejected if you’re like “no thanks.” but also, there’s the honest route “hey i don’t want to sound like a total asshole, and maybe there’s no way around it – but i wanted a one-night stand with you. i wanted to give you everything knowing that it was just one night. that’s all i wanted. is that cool? the future is a long time but for now i’ve got so much shit going on, i just need this to be what it was, and end there. but i’m sure you won’t have trouble finding what you’re looking for somewhere else…:-).”
where do i come up with this stuff
YAY I LOVE YOU TOO! i hope they didn’t yell at you like Spencer’s Mom, that woman was off the chain
yes it is, but mostly in our reply-alls all we have managed to do is make off-topic jokes and talk about boifriends, but i think that sooner or later there will be some kind of topic chosen and a post written and so forth, that kind of thing. idk. it’s not going to be about justin bieber though, just so you know. but i do believe that everything happens for a reason.
[question continued…] biking is fun except that we don’t have a good bike path system. and traffic is pretty much unavoidable. bottom line, travelling around LA sucks but everything else is pretty rad, as I’m sure you can attest :)“
I felt like I needed to include a real LA resident’s feelings re: driving etc.
yes andrea gibson is lovely! i also enjoy alix olson when i am feeling particularly homosexual/enraged.
also i realized that i forgot a few the first time i answered this. for instance daphne gottlieb who i think is maybe insane but is great:
Last week, she was obsessed with cantaloupe and Eartha Kitt. As I got ready for work, she jumped up and down on the bed, singing, I Wanna Be Evil. When I came home, she’d tried to dye her hair black. The dye was spattered on the walls, the couch, the floor, sticking to everything but her hair, which shone like a canary in a coal mine. It didn’t work right, huh, she asks. Do you hate it? Her face crumples. I hate it, she says. I rubbed toothpaste on her hair until it was back to blonde, and we ate cantaloupe in bed, gently scooping the calm flesh into our mouths. – “everything she asks of me”
i also really like raymond carver. obvs his short stories, i mean cathedral will fuck you UP girl, but his poetry is also really good and i feel like people don’t know that. a lot of it is about israel?
“Lord, I tell you
I am without purpose
here in the Holy Land.”
honestly, that sounds kind of wonderful, i am glad that that is the way things are for you. it sounds like you want them to know. ask yourself “do i want them to know?” if the answer is yes, then tell them “hey i love and respect you and i want you to know.”
“And so I think we can all agree, after taking into consideration the facts which I’ve presented to you here today, that Goonies was indeed superior to Ghostbusters.”
If you can hold a tune then singing along to power ballads will never be a dealbreaker for a (strictly platonic) internet crush. Not ever.
