why am i so afraid?
because it’s a long way down
hey i asked you this a month ago http://4ms.me/gmHICG so i joined okcupid and i also have quite a few unanswered msgs on my inbox. everytime i told myself i should answer some of em, i ended up reading book, AS or doing sth else. how’s your 28 msgs?
i answered them! some of them.
and then there was food and drinks and a patio. and pretend candlelight and forgotten fries and a reminder of why it’s always best to let her walk in front of you.
and then an omelet and an extra lemon and surprise tegan & sara and a mint that was too big to fit into my mouth and a misunderstanding involving a bowl of whiskey that made me laugh so fucking loud.
and then there’s going to be other stuff.
you should really reply to your messages.
hi taylor it’s jess. i have anxiety about giving up the keyboard on my blackberry and going full touch screen iphone. i’m scared.
hi jess! the iPhone has a really great touch keyboard, so it will be no prob, i promise. i went from not texting at all to being somewhat proficient on my first iphone in no time.
if you want a keyboard, there are lots of sexy android phones with full keyboards, but i suspect you want an iphone. so you can trust me, or you could buy this keyboard add-on. people will probably give you weird looks, but fuck all those haters, you know?
http://www.9to5mac.com/36290/boxwaves-keyboard-buddy-cases-gives-your-iphone-4-physical-keys
also i cannot text or operate a phone in a phonely manner for the life of me, so i use Shapewriter and Swype for Android, which make texting kind of like a fun puzzle game where you scoot your finger around.
I’ve been w my first girlfriend for ~6 years and we’re really happy but at the same time i can’t help but think seriously, i’m only going to fuck one person in my entire life? asdjfdk
stop thinking about the rest of your life and just think about nownownow. think “right now i am fucking this one person and she’s really quite lovely and i especially enjoy the way she [does a thing or several things both pertaining to and not pertaining to sexual activities]. oh hell yes i am one lucky bitch.”
and worry about that other bridge full of brand new gorgeous sexy sexual queerish people when you cross it.
this is how i think about vegetarianism. like “mmmm vegetables and tofu and brown rice and braggs mmmm mmm mmmmm i am so healthy and morally sound mmmm oh look a bridge full of pulled pork sandwiches hello NOM NOM NOM ohhhh vegetables i love you soooo tofu hello i am back i’ve missed you xoxox”
i don’t know wait, that might be a flawed mindset because tofu is always glad to see you, whereas girlfriends sometimes aren’t. i don’t know. anyway maybe just do some yoga and meditate on this.
Can you have livejournal private so no one can see it and just keep it as a personal journal? or is it open for everyone to read?
unfortunately i didn’t create the livejournal platform myself. i know I KNOW it seems like i did, because i am so important and more or less the empress of the entire internet, right up there with zuckerberg, gore, mr.netflix, nick denton and whomever invented that “must pop words” game. BUT I AM NOT! indeed i had a livejournal as a youngster, some of which i have reprinted on a tumblr OH WAIT NO SORRY THIS ISN’T ABOUT ME! this is about you. or is it really about you? or is it about livejournal. to be honest with you, i know the answer to your question but i don’t feel qualified to provide you with that answer because i am not a livejournal professional. lucky for me, and LORD HAVE MERCY lucky for YOU!!! – there’s this:
http://www.livejournal.com/support/faq.bml
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how do you feel about drinking while doing homework?
if you wanted an impartial answer, you should maybe have asked someone who is not drunk on a monday night. but if you wanted a drunk answer, i will tell you this: observe that there are no typos in this answer! and i have done only minimal backspacing/editing.
Do you ever have those days..possibly even weeks where you absolutely hate everyone and wish they would shut the fuck up and stop talking to you..and you almost feel smarter than everyone because you’re so damn angry?
i always feel smarter than everyone.
JKJKlol actually yeah i do have those days / weeks and they make me feel toxic and sludgy and i hate them. ‘sludgy’ is a word, btw. it’s not underlined in red. neat.
i think you have to read things to feel better. maybe things written by children. children can be surprisingly insightful and calming. maybe spend an afternoon in a niece / nephew situation.
or yoga. or really just anything that keeps you right there in a moment and forces you to breathe.
but really i feel like anger is a good catalyst. if you could find a way to positively channel it, you’d be golden.
like a golden retriever
or something.
Ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years. Things have been rough lately. I fell for her best friend. We’ve been flirting. She understands me better than anyone. We talk for hours on end. She also has a girlfriend. How can something so wrong feel so right?
because everything is fucked.
i almost wrote “this won’t end well’ but that’s possibly untrue. it probably won’t end well for someone. i guess it’s up to you who that someone will be.
i mean, our lives / futures are ultimately up to us as individuals and of course there’s the chance that you will be the someone for whom this doesn’t end well, via one of them making a decision first.
anyway i guess you just decide what’s important to you and then go forward with the courage of your convictions.
but maybe you should ask riese. she’s probably better at knowing what to do with things like this. or really anyone other than me
would probably be better.
RE to the one-night-stand girl: I had an one night stand and I wanted to be fuck buddies and I had her number and all, so I suggested to meet again and she was really nice and cute and said that she didn’t really want to continue. This led to probably t
the cutest rejection ever, and it was totally okay. Just make some compliments and tell her the truth? Worked fine for me. (but maybe it helped that she’ll be gone anyway in a few weeks)
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good advice!
met/kissed a girl on friday. texted her on sunday just to say “great meeting you etc., how was the rest of your weekend.” got no response. do i continue to pursue communication? she was really cute.
text or email her again tomorrow. it’s possible she never got your text. if she doesn’t respond within a few hours, don’t chase her. let it go. it happens… and it sucks. keep me posted.
Will it ever stop hurting this badly? People tell me it will, but day after day passes, the knot in my stomach just seems to grow tighter, the lump in my throat making it harder to breathe, my heart so heavy I can’t get out of bed. It’s not getting better
:( This makes me so sad. I wish I had an instant fix for you, but I don’t. I just don’t think this is something you feel day by day. Or even week by week or month by month…
I think what you’re going through is something that changes someone forever. I think we all find ourselves in this scenario, with those same overwhelming feelings, at least once you know?
It’s been like 7 or 8 years since that one time someone made me feel the way you described and I’m only now realizing and grappling with how it affected me. Eight. Fucking. Years.
I don’t know how long you’ve been going through what you’re going through, but I can almost guarantee you that you will come out the other side a much much better, wiser and stronger person. There might not be any signs along the way that it’s “getting better” at all, but one day it will get better for reals. You will be better. Just hang in there cause you kind of don’t have any other choice I mean, right? Right.
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