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I am interested in an asexual girl. Is this a just a bad idea or is it a really really bad idea for me to act on this?

asexual people have relationships – and enjoy intimacy and companionship and love and romance the same as everyone else. but (as far as i know?) she will never feel sexually attracted to you or to any other human. so if that’s ok with you, then i guess go for it. but if you think you can change the way she’s wired, then it’s a really really bad idea. you can’t. it depends on what you want out of a relationship. I guess just think about how you would feel if a straight boy acted on his interest with you, regardless of your expressed disinterest in boning him. (differing sexual orientations is not a perfect parallel to asexuality at all whatsoever ((if anything it’s probs more likely a lesbian could want to have sex with one dude at some point in their lives than it is that an asexual person would want to have sex with anyone)) but this is the best sitch i can come up with for you to even begin to understand how she might feel) Would you feel disrespected? Would you be scared that even if he SAID he didn’t expect sex from you if you were to date, that he will eventually change his mind? I mean the worst thing you could do to this girl would be to say you’re ok with no sexual anything and then realize a few months in that you’re not. yannow? and it might make you feel crummy about yourself to not be desired, even though you know it’s not “personal,” and then you’d feel crummy and she’d feel guilty and you know what i think – you should just be friends! just be friends.

*disclaimer: i am not an expert on this topic, could be totally wrong, and would suggest maybe asking someone on an asexuality tumblr?

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If as girl asks you to go to the movies and its been established that its a date… Do you think its okay to hold her hand during the movie? Also maybe give a goodnight kiss? I just don’t want to ruin things

i would start with hand-holding. everyone likes that. if she seems enthusiastic about hands then maybe she will equally enthusiastic about kisses, i think there is a lot of overlap in terms of people being interested in those things. i don’t really know. i share a debilitating fear of ruining things. you asked this four days ago, i hope by now you’ve had a really nice date.

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I asked about the Butch/Femme, lonely nights, etc. But in your example I’m Angelina Jolie & I wanna do Angelina Jolie. But Angelina did Jenny Shimizu. Who’s gorgeous & great but…kinda proves my point. I want a gf who’s cool w/tight jeans & underwire…

i think angelina jolie doing angelina jolie is the best idea i’ve heard all day. and i PROMISE PROMISE PROMISE i am not the only one who feels this way.

i don’t mean to be dismissive of your feelings but i have to say, as someone who worries irrationally on a professional level: you guys are too worried about this butch/femme thing! of all of the (several!) lesbians i know IRL, i honestly think only maybe two of them actually identify as butch or femme. and i don’t think they even date the opposite exclusively. you know? not all queers are into that particular dynamic - not many that i know at all, actually. the rest of us are just girls in this world, trying to get our movie done. you know? i just have a really hard time imagining that any girl is gonna be like “wellllllll this chick seems cool and all but she has those tight jeans that make her legs look incredible and that cute bra… i don’t think this is gonna work out, i would need her to wear a button-down.” the only time a girl and i even had a conversation about ‘which of us was which’ it ended with us disagreeing and then making out. this is not even a thing, anon. don’t even worry about it for real.

i feel this is a lot like healthcare reform: people freak out about it without reading the bill, and don’t realize they can just opt out. you know? you can just opt out guys!

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I’m in college, so me and my roommates share one tiny room. They watch youtube videos with techno music without headphones, and talk with the lights on till 3 in the morning, and I’m on the top bunk, so the lights right in my face. I don’t want to sound b

…itchy and ask them to stop every night, but I 8am classes everyday of the week. Do you know of any passive-aggressive methods to get them to shut the fuck up and turn off the lights?




I would probably have a huge screaming/sobbing breakdown in the middle of the room while they’re both there about how stressed you are about your work and your life and how if you miss one more of your 8 am classes you’re probably going to fail and then your parents will disown you and you’ll have to sell your eggs to survive. Then calm down a little and sniffle and tell them you’re sorry to act so crazy, it’s probably because you are just an eensy bit sleep deprived. Or just watch that episode of 30 Rock where Liz Lemon is trying to oust her roommate, that’s full of good ideas too

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If I stay in this class I will probably fail as I haven’t got a clue. However, if I withdraw it will move my credit count from 12 to 9. (I’m not sure if my scholarship will survive that). What do I do?

get a tutor, most colleges have a few programs that match you up with tutors for whatever subject you need help with. or you can put up signs around school asking for one or just ask a friend in the class if you can do your homework with them.

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