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Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna

I met some lady online about a month ago, she’s cool and we stay up talking until about 3am every night. I think she likes me but I totally just want to be her friend. What’s worse is that she lives in my town and she wants to meet me but I’m scared of..

..hurting her feelings and I think that’s probably going to put me off meeting her. Should I just get over it and meet her so we can be bffs?


this is a tough one, i will not lie to you! i think you should agree to meet her but say (online) beforehand “it will be almost like a date which is so funny because it won’t actually be a date at all! like NOT AT ALL.” i don’t know i think you need to make it clear that you’re not going to end up fingerblasting. but also friends are nice and we all need them, maybe don’t give up on this one yet.

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she’s not even cute. but i am so attracted to her. all i can think about is going down on her. can i just do it?

you’re so attracted to her
yet “she’s not even cute”?
BABY BABY BABY
who is telling you what is cute and what is not cute?
if it’s anyone besides YOU, then it’s irrelevant
to who you go down on and who you do not go down on.

yeah there’s that sort of “beauty standard” shoved in our
faces based on what “the media” likes,
but the media
does not have the first, second or last word on the topic.
they’re just the loudest.
[and generally TOTALLY clueless when it comes to anything queer.]

they do their thing. you do you.
or, in this case – HER.

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Does the ~font-explosion in Kanye’s “All the Lights” video make you die with happiness as a designer, or rather does it just make you feel like you’re tripping in a bad way? I can’t decide, personally. Am also not designer/creative/talented, etc…

UM! Holy sh*t my eyes. They bleed with love. I really fucking love it, but probs can only watch it like once a day… which I will proceed to do from here on out.
I had no clue this video existed! Thanks for showing me.

[Kanye West ft. Rihanna, Kid Cudi - All of the Lights http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAfFfqiYLp0]

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This is probably a super dumb thing to ask but I’m a babydyke so bear with me. I’ve just come out after 2 years of dating guys, so I’m used to being the one who is approached. So… how do I talk to other lesbians and let them know I’m interested?

there’s this, which is technically about meeting platonic friends but sometimes i can’t tell the difference between those and people i’m interested in anyways! AMIRITE, LADIES??

http://www.autostraddle.com/how-to-meet-other-queers-63456/

you’re also probably gonna want this

http://www.autostraddle.com/lesbian-courtship-55145/

also apparently okcupid is a thing. i think there is “messaging” and “winking” and stuff? idk ask laneia? go forth and get laid, young padawan

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I think my girlfriend is totally sexy, but she looks like a 12-yr-old boy. I have a work event coming up soon. How douchey is it of me to not want to bring her b/c I’m worried about what my coworkers will think? (They don’t even know I’m gay)

get her a nice tailored suit and a tie/shoes
have her do her hair like an old person
it will be ok
your coworkers will find it all very fascinating
they probably have crushes on shane

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Maybe your little cube is in a corner where the light is dim and you can easily go a full eight hours without talking to another human being except via email, and you realize your entire job is just something they haven’t quite figured out how to automate yet. Maybe you sometimes wander around the building holding a mug under the pretext of getting coffee just to break up the hours staring at a screen. And maybe when you go home you realize that the highest point of your day was reading TMZ on your lunch break. Maybe you have had this job for five years, or ten, or thirty, and you still have the fleeting impulse to lie every time someone asks what you do. You could be an astronaut. They don’t know.
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After 8 years as a lesbian, 2 yrs ago I was in a car accident w/3 other lesbians. We got t’d by a drunk driver. I’m the only one with lasting damage. They won’t believe me that I don’t want to date and have started ambushing me. Last night, someone

said to me, “When X asked me to meet you, my first reaction was no, then I thought what the hell, I’ll fuck anything once.” My friend says I’m being too sensitive. Is there any universe in which that’s OK? How do I get them to stop?

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um seriously? what the fucking hell is wrong with people.
no, there is no universe in which it is ever ok to say something like that to or about another human. jesus. i’m sorry there are assholes.
keep standing up for yourself and your decisions. and seriously, fuck fuck fuck that person and whoever set you up with them.
maybe join a book club or something and make a whole new set of friends. that probably sounds daunting but i swear it’s possible.
UGH fuck that person i want to throat punch them.

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