Riese, HELP! HELP ME!
hell to the No
Okay, I asked Laneia this, and she told me to pick an autostraddler that was my ‘spirit animal’ to ask. That would be you. I’m going to go see an Uh Huh Her concert tomorrow night. What should I pair with grey skinny jeans?! Quick hurry!
Oh wow. Umm okay , since my wardrobe consists of 95% black, white, or grey things, I would either pair the grey skinny jeans with a white v-neck or some type of black tank perhaps with a light jacket (leather? pleather?) of some sort over that…
Like this: http://lookbook.nu/look/1509287-Too-Bad (but ignore his weird boots)
Or even a button-up that you can tuck into your jeans with a belt.
Also, any of those tops shouldn’t be tight. Loose-fitting shirts/tank/etc with skinny jeans.
That’s just what I would do!
Now I’m curious as to what you’re spirit animal is.
Mine is a squirrel/chipmunk.
am i allowed to talk to a boy i’ve hooked up with (twice) before? my girlfriend is jealous and angry. i think this is ridiculous. and hypocritical. what do i doo?
i used to think that all jealous possessive partners were that way because they’re cheating on you, and so when they put themselves in your shoes, it’s a very scary scenario. conversely, if you are lying to your girlfriend, she generally senses this and becomes jealous and possessive.
but i think that’s not always the case. sometimes it’s just that you’ve been lied to/cheated on/betrayed so many times that you’ve stopped trusting anybody, because you’ve seen time and again that anything is possible, terrible things, because you’ve had to go through the part where you re-hash everything again in your brain with a new, disgusting light cast over all of it, and so this inspires you to be possessive or insane.
basically you need to get at the underlying issues here. ask her what she’s afraid will happen if you hang out with this guy and then address those concerns. reassure her that you love her and she has nothing to worry about, but you need to feel like you can breathe.
don’t let her turn it around on you – it’s classic and profoundly aggravating – “what? why do you need to hang out with this guy anyway? why is it such a big deal that you NEED to hang out with him, it seems a little odd to me…” anything like that.
maybe it’s issues from her past, maybe it’s something you said that made her feel insecure, maybe it’s how she feels about herself, maybe it’s something she saw or heard you do that concerned her – these feelings of possessive jealousy don’t come from nowhere. find out where it’s coming from and tackle it. and if she doesn’t let you do that, then you might want to think about whether or not this kind of relationship will ever be sustainable for you.
I don’t know how to tell anyone without the guise of internet anonymity that sometimes I feel like inexplicably crying and just vanishing. How can I start?
http://www.autostraddle.com/how-to-find-a-therapist-68432/\
i know how scary it is and i don’t know any way to make it less scary but i don’t think there’s any other way to do this
I want to start listening to the Mountain Goats. Where should I start?
first of all, i want to say congratulations. today is the day you become a woman/man/grown creature/goat. the bad news is i don’t know where you should start. the good news is there’s no bad place to start. i started with The Sunset Tree, the first album of theirs I heard. It’s more recent, so it’s more sort of produced and polished-sounding? Their earlier stuff (so, their first twenty-seven albums or something) sound more like they were recorded in a high school gym or possibly like John Darnielle just forgot he had left the recording equipment in his living room on. Other favorites of mine include The Hound Chronicles, Ghana, and whatever album has “Jaipur” on it. Also a lot of people are really obsessively into “No Children,” and while it’s not my favorite of theirs, it is pretty representative. If you like it, I can’t imagine you won’t like the rest. let me know what you listen to ohmigosh i’m so excited! (!!!)
I’m going to go see an Uh Huh Her concert tomorrow night. What should I pair with grey skinny jeans?! Quick hurry!
i think you should look at team autostraddle and decide which person is your spirit animal and then either ask that person or ask yourself what you think they would wear.
i would probably go with a v-neck deal, probably black + this really cute lace bra i bought the other day + black boy briefs + some girly flats and maybe a braid situation, depending on the weather ORRRR i would wear a giant shirt with a spaghetti-strap thing underneath and that keyhole necklace i wear everywhere and probably still the flats BUT LISTEN i don’t know how to dress myself, so maybe you should ask someone else.
I HOPE YOU HAVE FUN STARING AT CAM ALL NIGHT YOU LUCKY BASTARD.
what is ‘magnet spoon’ ??
re: http://www.formspring.me/Laneia/q/170772614468374855
magnet spoon, sometimes referred to as ‘monkey spoon’ or 'koala spoon’ or simply 'cuddling,’ is when the big spoon (or 'refrigerator’) is lying flat, usually on her back, and the little spoon ('magnet’) uses ½ - ¾ of her body to cover the leg / torso / chest area of the big spoon, in a maneuver that could also be described as a 'horizontal half-straddle.’
as its name would reflect, the magnet spoon position is quite difficult to extract oneself from, if one is the big spoon / refrigerator.
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sometimes I wish being a homo wasn’t so trendy. does that sound terrible? how do I know for sure that the “straight” girls who flirt with me aren’t just messing with my head? should I just trust them/go for it?
i have a few thoughts/feelings on this. number one feeling is the person below you who said “sometimes i wish i could have some of these people’s problems, like i wish i wasn’t closeted,” or the person above you who is scared of their parents - if this is trendy, then call me behind the times, i guess.
as for the straight girls - you will never know that anyone isn’t messing with your head. avoiding “straight” girls who flirt with you does seem like an easy way to avoid worrying about heartbreak, though. i don’t know. in general my rule is that you can never trust them whoever ‘them’ is, but also my rule is to always go for it. so i guess you need to make a call.
Who deserves to have a sandwich named after them?
WHY HELLO thank you Formspring Question of the Day for asking me this oh-so-important question. I was just about to delete you, per ushe, until I saw that today you were asking something important. Something that really truly matters to today’s youth, ESPECIALLY the lesbians b/c they are fucked up etc.
Laneia. LANEIA DESERVES TO HAVE A SANDWICH NAMED AFTER HER.
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