You should take the Doc Martens to Dinah.
I LOVE YOU CRYSTAL
Today I ordered a vibrator that an AS reader recommended. And dental dams, finally! I feel so much better and calmer and really happy, today is officially a good day. Just thought you might like this. =)
like the carousel of progress, but with lesbians and sex
I like her, and I know she likes me back, but nothing seems to be happening. I feel like pushing her up against a wall and kissing her is the way to go to just make it happen, yes? no?
always always kiss the girl against the wall. you cannot go wrong with this classic autostraddle-approved move.
hi Rachel! basically, I have a lot of social anxiety and took forever to come out but I finally am and I feel great, and now I’m studying abroad in new zealand and I don’t really know anyone, but it’s okay and it’s been great, and do you think I should go
you didn’t finish this question but i’m going to say ‘yes’
I was a gold star dyke until I started dating my BFF of 2 years: a guy. I feel confused. I was a lesbian for so long, but now I’m in love with a man I want to marry. I feel I’ve lost a HUGE part of myself/my identity. How can I reconcile this?
I have been thinking about this one a lot, which is why it’s taken me so long to answer. This is something that resonates with me a lot/that I can relate to. I think the best and most honest thing you can do is to let yourself be sad for a while, because you have lost a huge part of your identity, at least to the extent that you define that identity as ‘not dating men.’ I’ve read all the advice and reassurance they give to parents whose kids are coming out, and they tell them that it’s okay to grieve. That it’s a natural response to what really is a kind of death; the death of who you thought your kid would be, the life you thought they would had. It’s okay for you to mourn the life you thought you were going to have.
You need to let your partner know what’s going on with you, though, and make sure he understands that this is hard for you and why. If he’s been your BFF all this time then maybe he already gets it, but you need to communicate really well about it (without blaming him) or else it might be a secret festering thing that eventually explodes, and I would hate to see you lose the thing that you’ve given up something you value so much to have.
And then lastly - once you’ve let yourself grieve, once you’ve talked about all your feelings until there are no feelings left, no more fucks to give - then try to let yourself be really happy about this. You’re in love, and you’ve found someone you want to spend the rest of your life with; some of us will go our whole lives without ever succeeding at that, or being as happy as you have the chance to be. You have the right to enjoy that, and enjoy him, without guilt. You don’t have to reconcile shit. Good luck.
This is relevant since we’re talking about poetry and because no one likes an arrogant asshole. 
Hey Riese, a while ago I sent you a non-question about how my friend had passed on and that your post about breaking up made me feel better. I just wanted to say that I got into University today, and that she would be proud, and I think I’m gonna be okay.
if this question were a person, i would hug it
How long did you live in new york?
i lived in nyc for a year-ish when i was 18. then i lived in nyc for a summer in 2001. then i moved to nyc in may 2004 and i left in september 2010.
Mike Huckabee REALLY doesn’t want you to get married, and right now he’s the most likely Republican Presidential candidate. Awesome.
How can you tell if your straight friend is into you? I think one of mine is, but I am not sure and I don’t want to make things weird if she isn’t.
when your straight friend says “i’m into you.” and even then i’d be careful.