yes i want to get a teaching degree
yes.
besides, she’s probably not the cleverest girl in town. i mean, there’s you.
yes, not being vocal is a thing. everything is a thing, baby.
75% of the time I felt like I was fighting just to stay standing
i realized life didn’t have to feel so fucking hard every minute
and i realized i was no longer feeling romantic about the idea
of life being really fucking hard
i grew out of masochism, i think
also there were too many ghosts
and i was sick of winter
No it’s not. But that’s okay, if we all liked the same type of girl we’d be in trouble.
Was your question asking for advice on how to be good at people, or at life? because i get lots of those but i worry about leading you astray and so i usually just skip to the music questions.
at times I can’t help feeling like the most solid advice I could give you is that you probably shouldn’t take life advice from someone who dropped out of college to become a roadie and who hangs out at metal clubs with girls named Raven and who thinks it’s okay to shop at hot topic and watch movies with dance-offs and listen to Mandy Moore and drink Coke Zero for breakfast and deal with things by not dealing. honestly sometimes i’m a little sketchy.
so it’s not you, it’s me. but i appreciate that you care what i think and so i’m going to get over myself and answer everyone’s questions soon, promise. i bet yours isn’t stupid.
Madonna, Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, and Missy Elliott perform at the 2003 VMAs.
I remember watching this with my jaw on the floor. I wish performances were still this epic at award shows :/
her existence and her presence and her likeability and her open-ness about her marriage and her sexuality makes her definitely one of the most influential gays in the country, if not the most. because this is america, and americans love the teevee, and she’s on the teevee. also, portia is really hot, which helps. also there was that thing where she came out on her tv sitcom show which was a big deal.
but you’re right that she doesn’t directly do enough gay activism, and her and portia don’t really involve themselves in the local gay community either much anymore, socially or philanthropically.
the charities ellen supports are usually related to animals, music education, children’s health and disaster relief efforts. she goes to the glaad awards sometimes but that’s about it – she doesn’t do interviews with gay press as far as i know.
so yes, she could do a lot more. should she? does she have an obligation? i don’t know. i’d say probably not. when ellen first started her talkshow she wasn’t allowed to mention being gay. so compared to that era, this era is like a nonstop homoparty.
i try to think that this is all part of a strategy to make her more palatable to the mainstream rather than embodying the Angry Lesbian Radical Activist trope because you know – it’s working. Maybe being the YEP I’M GAY girl maxes out your gay points early on. she does give a LOT to charity, like A LOT, even if it’s not gay charity.
i’m not mad at ellen.
“maybe you can keep me from ever being happy, but you’re not gonna stop me from having fun.”
-ani difranco
i want to answer this as thoroughly as possible.
sometimes i felt very very heavy, like i couldn’t walk anywhere ever again and i would never not be pregnant again.
and you forget what it was like to not be pregnant and what it was like to drink wine or zip your jeans or see your feet. or lay on your stomach. or have a bellybutton. or not need to pee every half hour.
also i could smell everything – the whole world. i could smell all the smells. that superpower stayed with me and sometimes it’s a serious pain in the ass.
sometimes i felt like an alien, because how fucking crazy is it that this body that i’ve inhabited forever is like, MAKING a whole new person. you know? i was carrying around this brand new thing that the world hadn’t seen yet – nothing in the world was like this thing i’d made. it could’ve been green and covered in bubbles for all i knew. i mean it seemed like it could’ve ended any number of ways.
sometimes i felt like a tree. i can’t explain that one except to say that there were several times that i thought “i bet this is what it feels like to be a tree.”
sometimes i felt like an incubator, which was similar to the alien feeling, but a little more helpless. like i was just a machine housing this new person; feeding it and keeping it alive until it was complete. it was hard to have a selfish thought then, because your body isn’t just yours anymore.
but mostly it felt like hiding a secret as close to my heart as anything could ever hide. like nothing would ever be closer to me than that.
Chely Wright has announced her engagement to her girlfriend Lauren Blitzer. They’re both very pretty.
Jess Gitner is the other Jess aka “Jess G”. Jess Gitner is a contributing writer for music related posts and she wrote quite a bit around CMJ time with those artist spotlights. You can check out her stuff here: http://www.autostraddle.com/author/jessgitner/
