this actually made me laugh out loud. yes definitely, no prob b/c emotions are right up top on the list of things that DEFINITELY DON’T HURT. they’re the item right below EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS.
she sounds like a bitch
you should go entertain other girls
that song is special to me
you used the word “groin”
that’s special
jealousy is a drag
it’s one thing to feel it
it’s another thing to act on it
you wanna be with someone
who broke up with you over a tattoo?
to the left
to the left
I’m pretty sure she hasn’t. How can I tell her I want to be with her for the rest of my life without seeming like a total loser? It completely violates the original terms of our relationship, but the fact that we’re been seeing each other in this context for more than two years means it’s more than just fantastic sex, right? You can’t be a FWB for two whole years without feeling something, right? What can I do?
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you guys I just want you to start doing this one thing: before you press ‘send,’ read your question back to yourself. is it about how sad you are? then ask yourself “is Rachel just going to say to make an appointment with a therapist?” if it is about your relationship, ask yourself “is Rachel going to suggest actually discussing this with the person in question?” Because just saying, this is one of those times.
Basically, I think what you want is for me to read your ladyfriend’s mind and see if she’s interested in a committed relationship, which if you can’t do I definitely can’t. For this, you would need to actually 1. share your feelings and 2. ask what hers are. I realize this is scary, but there are just not a lot of other options! That is pretty much what interacting with other humans is!
One thing I am not clear on - you want to spend the rest of your life with her, but do you only want to do that in an exclusive relationship? Like, it seems like your concern is that she may still be sleeping with other people - is that something that you would need to stop? Or is the 'violation of your original terms’ the fact that you actually care about her? I guess that unless there’s a specific objection to one or both of those things, I don’t actually see a problem here. Except that the rest of your life is a long time. I don’t know. good night and good luck.
Um my screen says “Logged in as Rachel” and I know when I comment it says “Rachel.” I use “internrachel” when I want to log in, and that is not what it says when I comment. So I would just go ahead and change your name - it’s super easy, you can just do it by editing your profile, just change what it says next to “Name.” And if you accidentally comment using your real name ever, just email us/me [rachel at autostraddle dot com] and we’ll fix it.
i think otter/owl action is illegal probably
polls close tomorrow night and i’ll have the results by friday / over the weekend at the latest!
I’M SO EXCITED TO HAVE A PERSON. you guys, seriously.
x files season 5, episode 4 (detour.) it is so great. the best thing. i can’t even.
i didn’t either
AND LOOK AT ME NOW
no for real like it’s A HUGE DEAL your senior year of college, like the biggest deal in the universe. so then you go somewhere, and lots of people transfer, and nobody cares anymore. it’s funny. it evaporates. whatever school you get into if you want to transfer, nobody judges or applauds you. you’ll see
In which I share an email with you and then you click that email and it takes you to a different website that I think you might like. There are cats involved.
“The world is supposed to feel as though it is ending and you are supposed to know only in the most dormant recesses of the backmost corner of your soul that it will not be like this forever.”
http://www.autostraddle.com/the-best-break-up-advice-youll-ever-get-84054/
xo
