AFTER ELLEN FOREVER.
i couldn’t possibly agree more
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do you use boxer briefs “made for girls” or the regular ones?
regular hanes mens boxer briefs
i also wear girls boyshorts though if they’re comfy
what is the james baldwin quote you mentioned re: Riese’s article?
i think i found it, it’s in douglas field’s “a historical guide to james baldwin”:
“I think the trick is to say yes to life… It is only we of the twentieth century who are so obsessed with the particular details of anybody’s sex life. I don’t think those details make a difference. And I will never be able to deny a certain power that I have had to deal with, which has dealt with me, which is called love; and love comes in very strange packages. I’ve loved a few men; I’ve loved a few women; and a few people have loved me. That’s… I suppose that’s all that’s saved my life.”
my 2 best friends are on vacay in barcelona for 5 weeks and i feel like i am a total loser with no friends/plans now. i want to go out, i want to do fun things, but not by myself? i dont want to sit at home for 5 weeks. :(
make new friends. building a sweet fort in your backyard and having lemonade to drink inside it is probably the best way to do this. you’re welcome.
hey! you didn’t comment on Riese’s article (the sexual orientation one), what are your feelings about it?
i didn’t comment only because i talk to riese pretty much every day and could tell her herself how much i liked it. but my feelings: i identify with everything she said a lot, as many people did. but i guess mostly i relate to how useless and lame words are to describe some things, like the way we feel about other people and the way we feel about ourselves and how those two intersect. and i relate to feeling like i literally need an essay to explain or define what i mean when i use words like that, and that if you end up resorting to that level of explanation, what use are the labels really anyway? i relate to the idea that there comes a time when there isn’t a word or a definition or a group that defines you, there’s just your life, and that is what it is. it speaks for itself.
i mean, i loved what she wrote. obviously. specific things i loved/that resonated with me personally:
“I was scared, like maybe many of you are now, that in some unpredictable future I’d pick the wrong gender and then flee my husband/wife for another man/woman, leaving everybody’s soul shattered and, apparently, myself crying in a ravine thinking, “GOD! ‘QUEER’ WAS SUCH A COPOUT!”
“I identify as bisexual because my relationships with men were not lies and I think that’s what bisexuality means… “Lesbian” seems like what I am but “bisexual” honors who I was, too — it wasn’t just a filling station from there to here, it was another highway altogether. I didn’t evolve, I changed. But that girl was real, too.”
“Desire comes first, naming it comes later. “Bisexual” feels like a lie but so does “lesbian” and so does “pansexual” and so does everything except “queer” which feels true. Because I like girls and because I’m a fucking weirdo, “queer” feels right. Sometimes “gay” feels right too, maybe because I like girls and because I’m happy.”
there’s a james baldwin quote about this/about love that i always think of at times like this. but really, the answer to your question is that i loved it, because riese lets her feelings be all of our feelings and that’s kind of a heroic thing to do. my feelings are “yeah, i feel that way too.”
(all re: this article http://www.autostraddle.com/my-sexual-orientation-90206/)
Pretty Little Liars
Pretty Little Liars
Pretty Little Liars is going to help underprivileged kids because they’re liars, not jerks.
THANK YOU AMERICAN FAMILY ASSOCIATION