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where’d the anthony weiner post go?

um it was meant to be a 100% humor piece. just a joke. i knew nothing about the guy, i was drunk, it was 2am on a sunday, i thought it’d be fun to post, but then there was this heated debate about sex-positivity or something that i couldn’t handle and i know i need to get better at taking it b/c we’re at the point now where someone will yell at us on every post – and then someone emailed me and sad christine quinn may be gay but she’s not a friend to the gays and no gays like her and i was like “oh really? shit!’ and felt like an idiot, and then i went to the post and then i changed it to say she wasn’t a friend of the gays, and then someone on the post yelled at me and said christine quinn was a HUGE friend of the gays and then i was like FUCK IT NO MORE JOKES FOR YOU.

i mean also at the end of the day, like rachel and i are learning WITH you. i went into this w/a lot of knowledge abt queer theory, sociology, women’s studies, psych, literature, etc., but really very little about politics. no more than the average bear. but these were issues someone needed to write about so i just have tried to learn things and then pretend like i know what i’m talking about and it’s taken me a year to even feel comfortable writing a post about anything involving politics without having to look everything up and so i don’t know, and this article was basically supposed to be an extended joke about how this anthony weiner coverage is driving me insane, and really i know nothing about the guy at all besides that he texted a picture of his penis, and i didn’t think it mattered that i’d been actively dodging any additional knowledge on this man, like his political agenda or his marriage, since that wasn’t the point at all, it was just about how the 24/7 news cycle can really wear you out, that was the topic, and i didn’t wanna talk about all the other things.

SO.

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How do you talk to someone who runs from confrontation? Like. sprints in the other direction and will do everything to avoid/ignore the situation/me? I’m not mad. I’m just annoyed that she won’t talk to me about it, because I don’t even know what IT is.

put a sticky note on the shower door that says I’M NOT EVEN MAD I’M JUST ANNOYED YOU WON’T TALK TO ME ABOUT IT. WHAT EVEN IS IT. then she can think about it while she’s in the shower, which is a good place for thinking, and maybe will be ready to talk about it when she comes out? alternatively find someone else to be friends with, because that shit sounds exhausting.

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So I saw your post about slutwalking and didn’t know what it was, and then I looked it up and got excited and tried to find one by me and there is one! Except wait! ITS THE DAY AFTER I GO OUT OF TOWN. Gah I’m frusturated

yes that is mildly upsetting but remember that there’s no reason you can’t walk around being slutty the other 364 days of the year too! i mean really isn’t that the point?

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so hows the new intern working out? i would have applied but i have to have a stupid job at a stupid restaurant with stupid people.

my intern is great! her name is bren and she does ALL THE THINGS. if i have thoughts or plans and they make no sense, she makes them make sense and then THEN she organizes them into lists. LISTS! and she knows when all the things need to happen. also she’s funny.
it’s a pretty magical world.
but HEY listen, your restaurant job is really important and special. you bring food to people! you’re like an angel.

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Hi Hi Hi! I’m an actory type and I’ve been searching high and low for strong comedic female monologues for years. YEARS, Riese. Do you have any suggestions of novels, plays, etc that feature strong women who are funny/sarcastic/witty? Thank you!!!!

I asked Broadway/Hollywood’s Own Haviland Stillwell for advice on this:
“Tell them "the most massive woman wins” (amazing monologues) and also pretty much any novel they love, they can cut and paste and make a monologue out of–tipping the velvet is a good one! :-) also, maybe fried green tomatoes?“

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I agree (re: the most massive woman wins, by madeline george), it’s an awesome play. I’m not an actress so I’m not an expert, but I’d also suggest looking at The Little Dog Laughed (Douglas Carter Beane).

Also anything by Christopher Durang… I wanna say Ed Albee too but now I feel like I should mention a lady… Sarah Ruhl, I think, could be a thing.

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How do you pick who advertises on the site? The Christian Mingle ads are weirding me out & they don’t even have a “women seeking women” option. I can get over it in the interest of making money. Mostly just curious. Wonder if they know where their ads are

we don’t pick who advertises on the site. it goes through the gay ad network, we have no communication with the advertisers. i can go through our account on their interface and block some media buys – i had to do that when the chaz bono ad started auto-playing my life away even though i’d said we wouldn’t take auto-play ads – and i actually did go in and try to find the christian mingle thing to block it but i couldnt. i could take another crack at it.

but don’t you think it’s funny? that they’re paying to advertise on our site? I think it’s funny. robin hooding it.

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why can’t i delete my own comment? like what is the reasoning behind this?

i think that’s pretty much how it is on the entire internet, my friend. you’ll have to take that up with wordpress.

if you wrote something you want taken down, message brianna and/or bren on ASS and ask them to help you out –

http://www.autostraddle.com/members/brianna/

http://www.autostraddle.com/members/bren

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How do I connect with my girlfriend who has depression and doesn’t ever seem to want to talk while I’m in a different state?

this is hard because as far as i can tell there are two problems: your girlfriend is depressed, and you feel disconnected from her. it is tempting to tell you that the way to solve the second problem is to solve the first, but that isn’t necessarily true i don’t think, and also i don’t know if you’ve ever tried “solving” someone’s depression or, you know, asking them to be a little less depressed, but i have rarely if ever seen that succeed. so.

have you tried writing letters? or emails? or something? i am presuming here that you communicate via the same methods of communication i usually do, which are gchat, phone and skype in that order. for me at least i am able to be more open/sharing/human/whatever sometimes if i’m writing and can do it on my own time instead of being asked to be super engaged in a conversation on someone else’s time.

alternatively, being depressed sucks and being in a relationship with someone depressed can also suck, so maybe she needs a therapist or you need time apart or both. idk.

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so after watching the GOP debate tonight i realized i don’t know anything about politics other than random capitalist/anti-capitalist stuff my business school profs decide to integrate into class. what do i do? what do i read? where do you learn things???

i didn’t watch the GOP debate, if that helps at all. i did read about it on NPR though. you could try reading things on NPR? or read articles on this website autostraddle dot com and click through the sourced links for some background reading. if you are interested in reading up on politics while kind of feeling like you are reading a catty gossip mag, i recommend wonkette. i guess there’s politico too but that feels too legit for me, even i don’t read that.

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